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Trans man lesbians: Could you explain in the comments why you identify as lesbian as opposed to straight? I feel like throughout all this discourse I’ve never actually heard from the people who the discourse is actually about. Pls no arguing in replies.
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Anonymous 1d

i’m a genderqueer butch but often pass as a man. i’m pretty much fine with being seen as a trans man by cishet society and as someone with a more nuanced/lesbian gender within queer spaces. in my experience a lot of “trans man lesbians” have similar experiences (but i dont use that label myself).

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Anonymous 1d

i'm not one but if i was attracted to women instead of men, id likely identify with lesbian over straight because my attraction would feel inherently queer to me, and i grew up in sapphic spaces and relating to sapphic romance and love rather than attraction through the lens of the straight man

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Anonymous 1d

I will block people who try to start arguments! I don’t want discourse. I just want to hear from the people.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

But I am confused if a trans man identifies as a man and transition would that not make a straight relationship

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

on paper, yeah, and there are trans men who do identify as straight, but transitioning doesn't mean you're suddenly the same as a straight man or have the lived experiences of one. many trans men exist in sapphic spaces before coming out, or feel genderqueer in a way that it doesn't make sense to identify as straight to them

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

so for you it’s more about the feeling of the attraction than the label itself? I can understand what you mean about attraction towards women being different for lesbians and straight men. As a lesbian, you would think I would understand straight men and the way they feel about women but I am genuinely confused by them most of the time. But I would argue this has more to do with the patriarchy and misogyny than attraction, what do you think?

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

See, this is the kind of nuance I never hear about when people have this discourse. Thank you for sharing your experience <3

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