So I also struggled with this a while back too and a friend explained the idea of “aesthetic attraction” to me. Like I could think a man is good looking but would I want to date that man or get close with them in any way other than platonically? At least for me, the answer to that is always no.

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Honey I think you’re a lesbian. Like I’m a lesbian and I think some men are handsome. I have eyes, being a lesbian dosent mean my eyes don’t work. I don’t want to date men, fuck men, be close in any way but maybe platonic with men. I have seen men I think are cute, but many times it’s envy or they just look cool. (Alternative)

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-Want to date one. I have felt the want to date other women tho, but never men. I’m just a bit confused about my sexuality, and since it’s pride week (in my country) I wanted to buy a flag for my room and a pin- so I felt that I should at least know what I am before buying something 😭

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Bisexuality is a spectrum! You can be bi and like women more or like men more it’s not 50% 50% you can also be more sexually attracted to one gender more than the other as well! It’s all just your preference and what makes you feel comfortable

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Sexual attraction, romantic attraction, and aesthetic attraction are all different. Some people differentiate them (ex: biromantic homosexual) and some people don’t (just sticking with bi or gay or an umbrella term like queer). I personally don’t really pull it out like that for myself, like I know the answer I guess, but at the end of the day I just slap the rainbow on my wall and call it a day lol

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I probably align more with “pansexual” as an identity but I still consider myself bi because I like the colors and title more lol

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You described more pansexuality i believe. Pansexuality is more of an attraction to people’s personalities than their gender. At the very least you can get a pride flag with all the colors to represent your curiosity and non specific label. Sexuality is a spectrum at some point most people find the dont quite know where they fall on the spectrum. At the rnd of the day you are you and you are beautiful!

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Look into homoflexible. It refers to someone who is attracted primarily to those of the same gender but have some exceptions based off whatever it may be.

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No matter what, labels aren’t even that important. Sexuality is so confusing and not the most important thing in the world. You are valid and I know you’ll find yourself in time!

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why /do/ you need a label? sexuality is a fluid thing; i just call myself queer. that being said, i got there by doing a lot of reading - read accounts of queer lives, and see if anything resonates with you and your experiences. i’d start with michelle tea, eileen myles, samuel r delany, vera blossom, alison bechdel, imogen binnie, leslie feinberg, casey plett, andrea lawlor, and i’d be remiss to not mention torrey peters, maybe the most singularly intelligent author i’ve ever read.

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