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LGBTQIA+ 3w
one day imma piece together my thoughts fully on dating as a fat femme under the trans/queer/nonbinary identities and dealing with the fatphobia u experience via dysphoria in ur partners
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Anonymous 3w

ngl I’m tired lol it’s so complicated tho and i hold space for that but i also dnt wanna hold ur hand bcuz ur insecure abt ur “stomach pudge” or how u dnt wanna engage in intimacy until u have the “right body” and it’s usually the need to be thin or have muscles like ….

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Anonymous 3w

OP you’re so right!! I’m a fat nonbinary trans guy and dealing with fatphobia in our community and what people expect us to want for ourselves and our transition goals is SO hard!

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

idk im curious to hear abt experiences cuz i definitely been tinkering w my thoughts and i dnt wanna be insensitive but also the shit i be sitting thru is insensitive to my ass so it’s like lol

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

I hate that a lot of the talk about being in the right body is thinness. Like I want to be in the right body. I want to have no chest, more muscles. But I want to stay fat. I don’t want muscles to look good, I want to be able to carry big boxes and stuff like that. I don’t care about people’s insecurities about their stomach and stuff but I do hate when they tell fat people idk. Like feel whatever way you want but don’t ask me if you look fat in that dress

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

Like, it’s hard for me to even know what my transition goals are because I haven’t seen much for fat trans and nonbinary representation, like I don’t know what top surgery would look like on a fat body.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

And people always assume one of my transition goals includes weightless which is sooo frustrating

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