
Like you could call me a man, woman, idc. It just seems so irrelevant to me in how I view someone. However, it would be interesting to see what that means for language when referring to people. I understand referring to people as masculine, feminine, androgynous. But mostly that’s just how I see myself; I see myself as a masculine gay person who feels comfortable identifying with that
I feel somewhat similar and identify as nonbinary, however there are a couple of small ways that being seen as a man makes me uncomfortable. I’m with you that it’s all performative social theatre, and I think those inferences about “manly” traits that I dislike shouldn’t happen even if I identified as a man, but being nb just feels more accurate to me
there’s no one thing that’s particularly huge, but a lot of it is about traditional family dynamics and emotional responses. Many people, especially my parents, would expect a very traditional nuclear family dynamic if I married a girl, which isn’t really what I want. The expectation for men to not show or talk about their emotions hurts and I like closer friendships. I’d rather be seen as cute or pretty than handsome or manly.
Now, obviously all of that can be true and someone still can be a man. Men can be cute and emotionally open and in non traditional relationships. I just dislike being viewed in those ways by default when interacting with new people, and have no reason to be attached to the label of man when it usually includes those inferences about who I am