LGBTQIA+ on Yik Yak | Is best friend homophobic: -says that I don’t count as a man even though I’m clearly a man -uses gay to describe something bad -doesn’t like when gay people are “too much” Am I being dumb? Idk sometimes I think I am but other times I’m like but am I?

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LGBTQIA+ 12w

Is best friend homophobic: -says that I don’t count as a man even though I’m clearly a man -uses gay to describe something bad -doesn’t like when gay people are “too much” Am I being dumb? Idk sometimes I think I am but other times I’m like but am I?

Anonymous 12w

no, i had a few friends like this. my advice is to RUN. get out of there. these things start to build up and the curiosity will drive you crazy. when you ask them they’ll say they’re not. but it always stays in the back of your mind until it boils over.

Anonymous 12w

that’s a homophobe mary

Anonymous 12w

Are you waiting for them to start using slurs?? That’s a homophobe bro, you’re not overthinking it

Anonymous 12w

If they can’t respect how they’re making you feel by the comments they make, leave them. Thats homophobic language. Intention behind the words doesn’t matter. They need to grow up and understand language matters

Anonymous 11w

It’s definitely homophobic behavior, but if you have a serious conversation about how you feel about it, there’s a decent chance you can help them change. If they get mad about it or can’t figure out respect, don’t feel bad for moving on.

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Anonymous

#1 12w

That’s so fair. Honestly it’s been getting to me lately, but so has a lot of other things. We’ve been really good friends for years but more recently I’m starting to see that I don’t think this friendship is gonna be forever. The whole not counting me as a man upsets me more than I’d like to it because it feeds into the idea that gay men can’t be men or whatever and not that this masculine manly man but I’m still a man. The whole gay as a negative word is annoying because there are many other…

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Anonymous

OP 12w

Words to use and the lash point, I don’t hide my identity. I am gay af and I am proud of it. So the whole “too much” comment really gets to me.

Anonymous

OP 12w

i completely understand. they would say that to me too. like oh you aren’t “one of those gays” “yk the ones that make it their whole personality.” like it’s not a personality trait? it’s my identity. I am queer ive struggled bc of it. i am loud about it and i always will be. i was friends with them for years too and it wasn’t until recently when i realized i needed to let go. obviously our situations are individual and have their own nuances but if would sit with it for a while and really think

Anonymous

#1 12w

about what i want to do and like how i would feel if i continued in this friendship vs how i would feel if i lost it