Yeah as a nonbinary person who mostly had trans and nonbinary friends… 99% of us don’t care. We call eachother “princess” or “boy” or whatever. Don’t call us femboys tho. Ever. That is a derogatory porn term. But if it’s not derogatory then most likely we won’t give a shit what you use.
I took a class called queer latinidad and we read about Latinx and it’s origins/meaning and it’s actually a lot more nuanced. Some of it is a nod to Náhuatl like Xicano/chicano also the way Malcolm X used the letter. It’s not perfect but saying it’s only made by white people is wrong. Latine is a good alternative though :)
I'm starting to become one of those old-head gays. like I will respect your identity full stop, though some of this feels like teenagers on tumblr who want to collect extra special, rare identities. Like why is there a trauma pride flag.. To be clear, I would never condemn this on the grounds that it makes our community look unserious or ridiculous. I can't stand that bc you know that cons will find something to make a problem of no matter how "mainstream" the community is. leopards, faces etc.
I’m doing a minor in Latin American and Caribbean studies and we talk about this as being an issue but very sadly it has wrongly been considered the “correct” term despite the feelings of actual queer people. I actually prefer latine if its even going to be a necessary push (not that i think it is) but latino is just the general term anyway.
In 2020 kids were getting bullied for the bug/bugself shit at my highschool. I don’t stand for bullying but somebody had to tell them kids to get off the computer and touch grass😭my stances never flipped either(yes I know you weren’t targeting directly us). That shit was weird then and it’s still weird now. Making and collecting labels like it’s cute or something
Like I don’t get why cis people or even some binary trans people think we care that much. Like yeah people call me a girl all the time. I don’t identify as one but I’m not offended or anything. I don’t like it when people do it on purpose to hurt me but also I don’t mind when people do by accident or if they just assumed and I didn’t inform them yet.
i’ve always felt the same about neopronouns(they’re not something i understand, and the noun based ones are a bit silly, but to each their own, i’m not going to tell someone what to call themselves) and i feel like most people have as well, people in 2020 were just getting relentlessly bullies for having a little whimsy and that’s what people were upset about, you’re being intentionally obtuse so you can have your gotcha moment
it originates as a category of porn i’m pretty sure, i know people who also use that label for themselves tho. i don’t know if it’s inherently “derogatory” unless used in a negative context ofc, but i can see how some people would be made to feel uncomfortable being called it unprompted due to its historical usage
Really? I’ve always heard it just used as the opposite of tomboy. Im not sure it’s possible for porn to be the “origin” of a word, people would have to know what it means for it to make sense, and it’s just two words stuck together, but Im sure it’s a category. Worlds better than “she-male” or stuff like that imo
That does make a lot of sense, I guess I’m just thinking about it in a context where it correctly refers to the person, instead of going against their identity. Kind of like how cross dressing can be an accurate description of specific people, even though it’s inaccurate and offensive when referring to trans people.