my mom has a trans friend and my dad is very “live & let live,” but from the things they say they don’t really *get* not wanting someone in those ways (though they’d be chill if it’s in an allo queer way). idk, my SA set back me realizing I was aroace by years, but I really did know the whole time, & that’s an important part of the narrative to me. but I feel like that’s two bombshells I might never be ready to drop…

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my experience with being aroace might be vastly different to yours, but personally i see being aroace as less of a thing i need to tell people unlike being trans. that was something integral to how i wanted people to see me whereas being aroace is just sorta something for me if that makes sense. not something i feel the need to “come out” as because it really doesn’t effect anyone but myself. obviously if you want to you should be given the space to express it though so i hope you’re able to :)

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