t1redblueboy
Hot take, the only ones who use Grindr are old gay creeps, it’s not normalize now because the app is weird and sexualized the community, another hot take, one of the main reasons gays are look bad is because of the older generation in the communityopportunistic old creeps exist in droves across all sexualities, it’s really not an issue specific to gay men and when you phrase it this way it kinda just reads like internalized homophobia on your part i’m genuinely sorry older men have been objectifying you though. all the worst ones pop out of the woodwork in droves when you’re 19 and looking for connection, so on some level i understand why you’d end up feeling this way
i hope you’ll be able to eventually form some healthy platonic / neighborly relationships with responsible elders in your local community. safe intergenerational friendships can be a really healing thing. not that you gotta go looking for old men to kick it with, i just wanna believe someone’s gonna organically fix that pattern that made you distrustful of the older generations 🙏
tbh when i was like 18 - 22ish i thought i hated men in general cause i was so accustomed to mistreatment. but the thing is, shady assholes are aggressively putting themselves out there, while normal elders mostly mind their own business. so we end up not even noticing those guys who aren’t predatory, and that causes a skewed perception (not your fault, to be clear)