So many times people would assume I was nonbinary and exclusively use they/them for me (I wouldn’t really notice cause they were the types to use they/them for everyone) but when it would come up that I’m not nb they’d be like “noooo way! But you’re so androgynous!” And I wouldn’t really know what to say to that.
Ykw that’s another fantastic point, WOC and especially queer WOC are masculinized no matter what they do or how they express themselves because our view of femininity is rooted in white supremely. My bff is the most beautiful femme in the entire world and yet people constantly call her a stud just bcos she’s black n is rocking w short hair
Honestly this is making me a little emotional to be referred to as a WOC and facing problems other WOC face as if it’s a given because it’s so often just assumed that Asians are not POC the same way Black and brown people are (at least where I am)???? So thanks you for that lol! But like ya, femininity for me is boxy shapes and simplicity, I didn’t grow up with white beauty standards. I never really thought about it being a race problem but now I can’t unsee it
I’m 3/4 South Asian and Middle Eastern descent, and I can tell you that race almost always factors into it. People always assume I should be more masc than I am bc I don’t look like a white woman. Like, I have waist length hair and I’m wearing a sundress with a TS cardigan, but I will still get asked if I’m masc