LGBTQIA+ on Yik Yak | I have a potentially dumb question. my fiancé and I both live in the U.S. and we are both legally female. our wedding is next may. should we go to the courthouse and get legally married sooner than that? if so, when? how urgent is this?

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LGBTQIA+ 5w

I have a potentially dumb question. my fiancé and I both live in the U.S. and we are both legally female. our wedding is next may. should we go to the courthouse and get legally married sooner than that? if so, when? how urgent is this?

Anonymous 5w

I think a lot of it depends on your state. If your state would still recognize your marriage if gay marriage is overturned at the federal level then you’re probably fine for the time being. But if your state would immediately ban/not recognize gay marriage you’ll want to get legally married sooner rather than later and look to move ASAP to a state that will protect you and your marriage for maximum safety

Anonymous 5w

there’s a lotta questions abt how this would actually play out legally that we won’t know the answers to unless it actually happens, and im not a lawyer. but due to the Respect for Marriage Act of 2022, all states are required to recognize a legal marriage performed in another state even if that marriage wouldnt be legal there, and gay marriage is recognized federally. so what you should do may depend on your state laws, but there will still be the option to travel to get married if need be

Anonymous 5w

I’d suggest getting the license and being legally married sooner rather than later

Anonymous 5w

Some ppl legally get married before their ceremony anyway it can’t hurt

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Anonymous 5w

No you will be fine! The ruling won’t happen until June IF the Supreme court even accepts it, and your state won’t be able to hold a law banning lgbtq marriages until then, and still might not make a law at all and keep it legal.

Anonymous 5w

hey everyone, thank you for your responses! my partner and I have applied for a marriage license and we will be signing it this weekend, though we are still proceeding with the ceremony in may as planned. we figured it’s better to be safe than sorry. I hope anyone else in a similar boat is able to get married as planned!! 🫶🏻 -OP

Anonymous

#1 5w

If gay marriage is legal at the state level where you live, don’t worry, that would not be overturned. If not, then it’s prob worth it to get your license early, but that also raises the question: will your state retroactively nullify marriages performed there? If that happens you may have to travel to get married regardless. But again, we won’t know how this plays out in every state unless it actually happens.

Anonymous

#2 5w

Why are people downvoting this lmao??

Anonymous

#1 5w

Would they be able to attack the respect for marriage act next? And/or would it be enforced if there were states to violate it? I know there’s some states rn that are forcing the Ten Commandments in public school despite it being unconstitutional and explicitly not allowed under a Supreme Court ruling that’s not been overruled

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Anonymous

#1 5w

So if the law changes it will not back date or nullify marriages already established! Unless they explicitly make a brand new law saying any marriages that don’t fit the new law are nullified, which I honestly don’t think they could legally do, then it’s not something to be worried about in this case.

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Anonymous

mother_russia 5w

It is always a good idea to check the progress of laws like that in your state though so if it ever seems like it’s getting too sketchy, go file a marriage certificate earlier but keep your wedding for when you have it planned!

Anonymous

mother_russia 5w

So many of these questions would be resolved by requiring high-quality civics classes in high school

Anonymous

#3 5w

because not everyone can up and move. as a queer person in a red state, i don't even *want* to leave. my government still sucks, but it's my home. it's where my friends, family, and job are. all my childhood memories are here. minus the bigotry, i love the culture. what we need is for more people to fight to make these places safer rather than treating them as lost causes and telling people to leave. even if i wanted to, it's not like i have the money. i'm not the only person in this boat either

Anonymous

#6 5w

What happens to the Respect for Marriage act will be up to congress. In 2022 it passed with bipartisan support, but that year the approval ratings for gay marriage among republicans was at a record high. According to 2025 polling numbers there’s been a backslide of 15% since then. At the end of the day we’ve just got to make sure to keep electing pro-gay senators.

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Anonymous

#8 5w

Honestly true

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Anonymous

OP 5w

Good to error on the side of caution!! Congratulations on your engagement and upcoming marriage! That’s very exciting ❤️❤️