LGBTQIA+ on Yik Yak | If another friend told you a mutual is going by different pronouns but you weren’t told directly by the person, should you start using the new ones or wait to be told? It seems like a private conversation

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LGBTQIA+ 1w

If another friend told you a mutual is going by different pronouns but you weren’t told directly by the person, should you start using the new ones or wait to be told? It seems like a private conversation

Anonymous 1w

Hmmm… that’s kinda tough.. usually I like to wait to be told information directly

Anonymous 1w

Maybe go ahead and initiate that private conversation. Let them know you’ve heard about their pronoun change and ask how to proceed

Anonymous

#1 1w

Same, but it also feels weird cause it feels like I’m intentionally misgendering them. Like, I want to respect their identity but also their privacy?

Anonymous

OP 1w

It’s definitely tough but when one of my friends told my other friends they were transgender I kinda just waited for them to tell me personally but if you are close maybe you can have a conversation

Anonymous

#1 1w

That’s fair, I’m hoping they talk to me then. We had talked about it before and they were kind of on the fence between they/she. I may ask them about it and kinda get clarification, but we’ll see

Anonymous

#2 1w

I may reach out then. Just feel awkward worried if there was a reason they might not have told me. Like, I wouldn’t blame them or be angry if there was, more just be sad they felt like they couldn’t

Anonymous

OP 1w

I agree in asking them directly. Add in a “let me know how best to support you!” if you’re genuine in the sentiment.