LGBTQIA+ on Yik Yak | I let my dad know my mom has cancer and a week later he decided to call me to ask 1. "if her cancer was caused by the covid vaccine?" 2. "a mastectomy is unnecessary she should just do chemo" dumbest man I've ever met, thank god they're divorced

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I let my dad know my mom has cancer and a week later he decided to call me to ask 1. "if her cancer was caused by the covid vaccine?" 2. "a mastectomy is unnecessary she should just do chemo" dumbest man I've ever met, thank god they're divorced

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Anonymous 2d

No it’s insane what people say to you in relation to ailments. Someone told me my cancer was probably caused by my microwave use. Smile and nod, just smile and nod

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Anonymous 2d

Caring more about her boobs than her life is disgusting

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Anonymous 2d

A cause for no contact

Anonymous 2d

wishing your mom a quick and smooth remission and recovery ❤️

Anonymous 2d

Chemo literally destroys people. That second statement to me is just so insane.

Anonymous 2d

sharon stone’s ex husband left her bc she elected to have a bilateral mastectomy in the event her breast tumors were cancer.

Anonymous 1d

Sounds like it’s time to go no contact.

Anonymous 1d

Why did you tell him though? That wasn’t your information to give. Just being honest and yeah he sounds like an idiot but also, remember that when people are in shock or grieving or afraid, they don’t think very clearly AT ALL. I was an EMT for years in a huge city. People’s brains react in a way that shuts off a lot of the prefrontal cortex and processing. Just try to remember that

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Anonymous 2d

This is not on topic

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Anonymous

#2 2d

I wish, but I have a little brother and he's not old enough for a phone or anything yet but one day

Anonymous

#3 2d

I think it's more of a not believing in medicine or not believing me about how serious it is. they haven't seen each other in like a decade either, so idk what's going through his head gross either way though

Anonymous

#5 2d

awww thank you!! thankfully she's only stage 1 and she's having her surgery right now. so while scary it was definitely best case scenario all things considered

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Anonymous

OP 2d

Stage 2a for me - simple lumpectomy with 35 reds because my “Onco score” was low! Hoping the same for ur mom… 10 years cancer free this month! Yippee! Just be there. Period. Flowers are nice

Anonymous

listenksu 2d

my mom had stage 2 when i was a kid! she’s doing well now :) she preferred potted plants, she liked that they stayed alive

Anonymous

#9 2d

good to know queers can’t get cancer now ig

Anonymous

#5 2d

Thats such a reach

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Anonymous

#5 1d

thank you all for sharing. my mom has survived three separate forms of breast cancer. she kept a potted plant she originally gifted her terminally ill father in our home for over twenty-five years!

Anonymous

#9 1d

let’s be supportive and not critical of the person whose mom has cancer

Anonymous

#11 1d

My mom also has cancer lol

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Anonymous

#9 1d

Then you’d figure you’d be a little more empathetic no? Does it really matter whether or not it’s “on topic”??

Anonymous

#1 1d

Meow

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Anonymous

#9 1d

LGBT spaces aren’t just for talking about being gay… these are historically non judgemental safe spaces. This person was sharing something vulnerable and they should have the right to do. Next time just scroll past, not saying anything is free

Anonymous

#14 1d

I got explicit permission from my mom to share this information. Please don't assume you know my life. I had to share because I was already coming down this weekend for my brother's birthday and I needed to make sure he wouldn't throw a fit about me not being present. This phone call from him came a week after I initially shared the info with him so he def wasn't in shock at this point.

Anonymous

#7 1d

my step mom has literally had cancer as well so you'd think he'd know better but he's not the smartest and believes everything Fox News tells him

Anonymous

listenksu 1d

awwww thank you for saying this! my moms surgery went really well and obviously she still has a lot of recovery ahead but this is a good start! but yeah I'm spending all the time I can with her before I have to leave for school and I'll def get her some nice things!!

Anonymous

OP 1d

It disturbs me to see when people place their ego against literal intelligence. Sorry you have to go through that

Anonymous

OP 18h

A week is still within the time frame to be in emotional shock, and don’t forget grief, which can and often does, last a lifetime. It just becomes something you learn to live with and gets easier. I lost my step mom to lung cancer when I was 14. I’m sorry you’re going through all of this.

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Anonymous

#1 18h

That’s not how grief works. People react in different ways.

Anonymous

#9 18h

I’m sorry

Anonymous

#12 18h

Tbh the same could be said to you, bc you don’t know how this sort of post can hurt someone, especially when they’re not expecting it. And try not to tell people how they should react or feel to things as intense as cancer. Everyone is allowed to have their own feelings.

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Anonymous

#5 18h

That’s not even close to what was being said.

Anonymous

#14 11h

I know shock can last a while, but I just have a really hard time believing that's the case for my dad because he and my mom don't even know each other anymore. like he cheated on her through their whole marriage, then they divorced 16 years ago, and the last time they had a face to face conversation was about a decade ago. and he's also like this about everything, he tried to sue my mom when my sibling was diagnosed with depression. I'm really really sorry you went through that as well