LGBTQIA+ on Yik Yak | Genuine question why is being “ partially” asexual like a sexuality? Is that not just having a low libido or high standards? I don’t know.

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LGBTQIA+ 17h

Genuine question why is being “ partially” asexual like a sexuality? Is that not just having a low libido or high standards? I don’t know.

Anonymous 17h

This is a common misconception- asexuality is a sexual orientation, not an issue of libido (you can be any sexuality and have high or low libido). Grey-sexuality or asexual spectrum identities (if people choose to identify with one, it’s true lots of people might have that kind of experience and never identify it as asexuality) are referencing the idea of asexuality as a spectrum, are still describing their experiences of attraction/orientation not libido if that makes sense

Anonymous 7h

There’s a lot of little pieces of sexuality that can vary in strength separately. Sexual attraction to someone, romantic attraction to someone, actual desire to have sex with someone, and actual desire to have a close relationship with someone are all separate things, even though they follow each other somewhat closely in many people outside the aro/ace spectrum. People have created different labels signifying which of those work differently for them.

Anonymous

#1 15h

Ok but i still don’t understand I can’t lie. If you are ace you don’t want sex right? Like how would you still have a high libido. And I don’t rly understand the attraction thing like why there’s a whole sexuality for that just bc like it sound like you are prob just picky?

Anonymous

OP 14h

asexuality has nothing to do with sex! it has to do with not experiencing sexual attraction. like for example if you're a straight man you don't experience sexual attraction to women, it doesn't matter if you like anal sex that has nothing to do with your sexuality. asexual people experience no sexual attraction to anyone, someone asexual may still enjoy sex because all the sensations are still there it's just that someone's looks do nothing to amplify the experience

Anonymous

#2 14h

like if you're asexual no matter how attractive someone may be it won't turn you on. but if you touch your dick it'll still feel nice as would sticking it in someone. sorry to be graphic but it's hard to describe the separation between attraction and sexual pleasure

Anonymous

#2 14h

Ok, so what about people who are partially ace or whatever

Anonymous

OP 14h

I can't really speak for them as I'm asexual, but to my best understanding people identifying on the asexual spectrum is still an important part of their identity since they still live the vast majority of their life experiencing the world as an asexual person would. I think it's similar to how someone may identify as a lesbian because they've only been attracted to one man ever in their life

Anonymous

#2 8h

Yeah, can’t lie, still don’t understand it. I think that it’s just more confusing where as the lesbian thing is to reduce confusion

Anonymous

OP 8h

well that's okay! you don't have to understand something to respect it, but thanks for trying!! hopefully someone can explain better than me

Anonymous

#3 7h

for example, someone who occasionally gets crushes on people where they experience strong romantic attraction for a short period of time, but never really has consistent romantic attraction, might identify as somewhere on the aromantic spectrum to signify their difficulties with romantic relationships, even tho they aren’t completely aromantic. That entire explanation isn’t included in the label though ofc, so talking to potential partners more is always a good idea

Anonymous

#3 7h

Woah yeah idk about that but it’s likely attachment style related

Anonymous

OP 6h

I mean yeah, it can sometimes be a similar idea, but people usually use attachment styles to describe what they actually do and how they actually interact in a relationship, rather than their attraction and feelings