Anonymous #6 3w

I feel like once we say that, we’re not “man enough” in their minds which makes no sense

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Anonymous #7 3w

Yeah exactly even though i do the same if not more manly shit than the average guy

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Anonymous #3 3w

Or…here’s some food for thought…people get disowned for being queer in general 😳 I stg the reason why we can’t get anything accomplished as a community is because yall keep playing oppression olympics.

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Anonymous leastperformativemale 3w

Is it seriously oppression Olympics to say that being teased for liking ratty men is diffrent than being afraid to be disowned 💀

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Anonymous #3 3w

not Oppression Olympics but you are trying to 1-up OP. there’s bi people who get disowned or killed, so does that mean your fear is less valid? also, apparently we’re not allowed to vent a frustration without someone else saying they have it worse. ffs.

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Anonymous leastperformativemale 3w

what’s queer about dating an ugly man as a woman? go outside you’ll see at least 10 couples where the men look like they snuck onto earth with baddies. not that it takes away op’s bisexuality of course, but specifically being afraid of having a rat boyfriend and not like. actual oppression from homophobia, well it comes off as kinda tone deaf 🥸 especially with same sex marriage being on the chopping block and whatnot

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Anonymous #9 3w

this is like people bringing up the genocide to downplay someone being misgendered. just let people vent about their frustrations oml

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Anonymous #4 3w

that’s so fucked i’m sorry man

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there’s a difference between not wanting to be judged and acting like you need to hide your sexuality and pretend to be a lesbian because you’re nervous people have different taste than you and might make a few jokes

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Anonymous #1 3w

OP never said she pretended to be a lesbian 😭 hiding your bisexuality could mean just not mentioning your sexuality. also some people will actually judge you for being in a straight relationship as a bi person, to the extent you can lose friends.

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if they don’t get it after my comment I’m giving up, they might as well say I’m making ts up when I lived it ;-;

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Anonymous #3 3w

It’s almost like being shamed into hiding a part of who you are to fit into certain spaces is bad and sucks to go through…..

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Anonymous #1 3w

How did you interpret what I said to mean that I somehow thought this facet of my experience is a marker of oppression comparable to femicide?!? I’m a Jewish trans woman, I know damn well I have bigger things to worry about than being judged for my taste in men. All I meant to say is that I recognized that previous fear, one I was fully aware was superfluous and irrational, was rooted in the same structures that prioritize men’s desires over women’s. That’s *it*

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