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the way everyone is like “ugh i like men but i hate it🙄” is lowkey annoying ?? especially w bi women simply because as a lesbian i have noticed that some of them straight up do not like women they just have internalized that they should hate men
Is it a thing to be bi, hate men but somehow be attracted to them. Like I feel like I should be a lesbian, but I'm not.
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Anonymous 10w

like yes be weary, i don’t TRUST men and a solid portion of them can suck. but whining about heterosexual attraction just kinda bugs me

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Anonymous 10w

ps. not saying that OP isn’t bi, it’s just something i’ve noticed locally

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Anonymous 10w

i've literally never met a bi woman who says this and doesn't like women unless they're new to the community and still figuring out their sexuality. i'm engaged to a man, hate men, and am primarily attracted to women. i think this is just a problem where certain lesbians like to push that bi women have to be more queer in order to be bi. there is pressure there from the lgbtq community as well and instead of calling it annoying and furthering this maybe we should be more chill?

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Anonymous 10w

I think your point is valid but OP was clearly venting about their own experiences with attraction, I don’t think it’s very supportive to call their experiences annoying based on a generalization

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 10w

i wasn’t trying to support them, i was complaining. this is a public forum if you can’t handle criticism you shouldn’t be on it! and again i wasn’t even rlly talking about them

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

good for you i have met multiple lol

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

personally i think lesbians who try to determine other people's sexualities are pretty annoying

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

ok good for you meeting the tiniest population of bi women

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

lol okay, so when multiple ppl have told me they’re bi and then have told me later that they could never actually be with a woman, i should believe that they like women still?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

babe i never said that. i just was saying you can walk away from them then

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

my entire point is just that people like that exist not that every bi woman ever doesn’t like women

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

well you replied to a post that's about something entirely different then and are grouping them in so womp womp. ya could've just made a separate post. i'll keep joking about how i'm "sooooo upset im with a man" cause it's obviously not true. a woman who says they wouldn't date another woman could solely be sexually attracted to women. it's not your place to dictate that.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

if it's someone saying they couldn't imagine themselves with a woman in any form it could be internalized homophobia or they could just be straight. i get it when they're straight, makes sense that's annoying asf. there's a lot more nuance

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

lol sorry i responded to something that sparked my point and then clarified that i wasn’t talking about OP. and again, i have met multipleeee ppl that have told me they’re bi and then have later been like “i just think girls are pretty but i wouldn’t be with one”(meaning they wouldn’t sleep with or date women). like why r u trying to tell me these ppl don’t exist when ive met them😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

you were talking about them tbh, you literally reposted their comment. if you didn’t want to complain about their complaining, then you should have put it as its own post. if you can’t handle criticism about your own posts then maybe you should log off too? you seem very aggressive for no reason and i hope you figure that out some day so you can make some friends lmao

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 10w

i’m going to a dinner party w my friends in an hour! i like to get on the silly internet and talk shit sue me ! i don’t see why it’s the end of the world if i talk about something that’s only vaguely related attached to another post. yall take this app too seriously sometimes. i don’t think any of this is an offense to others i just think it’s annoying. people can find whatever they want annoying

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

why do you care what someone else's sexuality is? i explained the nuance of it and why your "opinion" is harmful to bi people. someone not being bi literally doesn't affect you. you don't know their journey. why r u so passive aggressive?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

me posting a little thing that annoys me is not harming the bi community lmao, and i’m not being passive aggressive im just stating an opinion that you don’t agree with. why does my opinion of something being annoying affect you?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

if you genuinely think you're not passive aggressive you should to work on your emotional maturity. it affects me because i also was a person with internalized homophobia who used to say this. guess what: still queer. i explained to you the nuance and i explained to you why it's harmful

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

i just don’t think someone complaining about something they’ve seen before should be harmful to you. this post isn’t about you

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

you just don't know how to respond to an actual argument huh? ig enjoy? i'm kinda sick of talking to a wall expecting it wants to listen

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