LGBTQIA+ on Yik Yak | are there an aroace, or somewhere on the ace spectrum people that could tell me what their experience has been like, or how they sort of knew?

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LGBTQIA+ 1d

are there an aroace, or somewhere on the ace spectrum people that could tell me what their experience has been like, or how they sort of knew?

Anonymous 23h

I realized I was aro when I was around 15, I realized every relationship I had been in (which was 2 at that point lol) was only bc they asked me out and I considered them a friend and was like “yeah sure why not”. Looking back I remember being in 5th grade and choosing someone to have a crush on bc that was the “normal thing to do”. I’d like to be in a relationship- the idea of it sounds nice. But I don’t feel any of the stuff people describe feeling as romantic attraction.

Anonymous 1d

sure, feel free to DM or ask here, I don't mind

Anonymous 1d

I have no idea what I am except that sexual attraction is super rare for me. I just felt kind of apathetic towards other people’s bodies. Like I wanted to have sex because I thought it would feel good and I also enjoyed dirty talk, but didn’t care at all for nudes or anything like that. I am sexually attracted to my current boyfriend which is really hard to describe, except that I am a huge fan of his butt and stomach and hips and thighs and chest. I didn’t end up having sex until him so idk…

Anonymous 4h

after some long hard years trying to figure myself out, i basically consider myself an expert on all things aro/ace 😭🙏 if you ever want to talk about your experiences or hear some of mine, feel free to dm!! i never mind helping a potential aspec <3

Anonymous

#2 1d

…what it would’ve been like to have sex with someone I’m not sexually attracted to.

Anonymous

#2 1d

This is a very helpful perspective, thank you. I’ve always kind of wondered if there would be one specific person who attraction would be there for but not the general public

Anonymous

#3 23h

Honestly it’s really hard to tell sometimes- do I have a crush on this person or do I just really want to be their friend? If it’s a feeling that’s been absent my whole life, how am I supposed to know what it feels like?

Anonymous

#3 23h

That’s kinda how I feel too, like I’ve never felt the emotion people always describe feeling about people they’re interested in or dating. I’ve had really close friendships that have felt crushing when they end, and sometimes I wonder if that’s what other people feel like when they get broken up with.

Anonymous

OP 19h

There’s really no way to know until you meet them. Labels aren’t permanent, it’s fine for them to change if you meet someone different