LGBTQIA+ on Yik Yak | I got clowned on for saying this Bi women can be male centered. Absolutely. But so can lesbians. So can gay men. So can straight men. Thats like,, kinda the point of the patriarchy i fear. Its not a “bi problem.” It is a patriarchy problem.

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I got clowned on for saying this Bi women can be male centered. Absolutely. But so can lesbians. So can gay men. So can straight men. Thats like,, kinda the point of the patriarchy i fear. Its not a “bi problem.” It is a patriarchy problem.

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Anonymous 5d

I had someone act like i kicked a puppy when i said, as a lesbian mind you, that lesbians can be male centered. Like i promise you we dont automatically lose our innate influence to center men in life when we realize we dont like men. Yes bi women can and often are male centered. But why blame them for a problem most people have because of societal pressures and expectations we all are born into? Its an individuals responsibility to decenter men, straight, bi, or lesbian

Anonymous 5d

What would be an example of lesbians being male centered

Anonymous 4d

TRUEING

Anonymous 3d

It’s moreso people get so anchored and anxious for focusing on the orientation more than assessing the persons self worth and accomplishments.

Anonymous 3d

The LGBT scope and start treating ourselves as respectable humans in this universe

Anonymous 3d

Let’s self center in unity rather than the orientation interests, let’s focus moreso on the manners of what could be, how can we improve relationships with our peers rather than boxing ourselves in on LGBT moreso of the experiences of how can we be respectful and less self centered on the LGBT affairs, moreso on the human interaction of hey it’s nice to know you. It’s okay to be bisexual and like the norms of all other genders. Friendships are moreso built on the kindship of respect, dignity

Anonymous 3d

boundaries and trust. Beyond the category scope. To make this less frustrating, what ever happened to the fundamentals of hey, how are you?

Anonymous 3d

If we look beyond the gay, bisexual, transgender or lesbian manners and titlements and look at what we can share as a community to bring stability, what accomplishments can we bring to the table or what goals or objectives to bring improvements in the interaction process. It’s just dogmatic that we’ve succumbed to the scrutiny, what can we do to bring strength vs vulnerability. Look beyond the victim mentality or the mental anguish, what do you pride yourself by? I think we need to look beyond

Anonymous

#1 5d

My assumption would be still holding onto patriarchal ideals, like (not a common example but an example regardless) calling masculine women ugly or “it” because they don’t fit into gender norms,

Anonymous

#1 5d

Same as everyone else, it’s just a lesbian that subconsciously or not tends to prioritize men’s feelings over her and other women. Watching how you talk with men to avoid upsetting them, envisioning someone with a gender neutral name as male before you even see them, even referring to stickmen and hu”man”ity. A big reason why anyone can be male centered is because our society has been built around men for a very long time so there’s many male centered things people don’t even consider-

Anonymous

#3 5d

It took me several years to default to making female or nb characters and you can see it in how the central characters in my older stories are men. There are still female characters in those stories, but they aren’t the Center of them. Even now I sometimes have to consciously decide that a character will be something besides a man. It’s just a deeply ingrained way of thinking that’s difficult to change or remove

Anonymous

#3 5d

That makes a lot of sense. I get a little worried when people say male instead of man, but it does sound like you mean specifically men

Anonymous

#1 4d

Honestly the first thing that comes to mind is how alot of lesbian femmes will treat a butch like a man in relationship and expect “manly” things all the while basically making them the man of the relationship. Additionally SOME (Not all) goldstar lesbians take pride in not having had sex with men but it still centers men as a focal part of your identity.

Anonymous

OP 4d

this is so weird of them to get mad at bc sexual attraction isn’t the only way society or people center men😭it seems like ur take is pretty benign

Anonymous

#5 4d

They basically made my opinion out to be a joke when its basically a fact all people center men because of society

Anonymous

#6 3d

Im not sure this is relevant to my post.

Anonymous

OP 3d

It’s a more grounded affirmation in regard to help you find relatable people who respect you with dignity and opens up the perceptions.

Anonymous

#6 3d

No I’m with op here, what your saying does somewhat make sense but it. Doesn’t really have anything to do with the post

Anonymous

#3 3d

Read below the post.

Anonymous

#6 2d

I did read below the post, in fact I read every comment on the post. You have a good point, but what you’re saying is much more focused on the lgbt generally working together rather than the fact that people can be man centered no matter their orientation. It can just be a bit confusing when trying to compare your responses to the topic of the post