The reason why transman and transwoman are problematic terms is because they were created by TERFS to create new categories of people. Instead of men and women who can be cis or trans, TERFs believe that there are men and women and transmen and transwomen. ‘Man’ is used to designate a cisgender man, and ‘transman’ is used to designate someone with a vagina who identifies as a man but, in the TERFs’ minds, is actually just masquerading and/or mentally ill
I think you explained this very well, thanks OP. I don’t think #3 meant any harm and just didn’t fully understand/know the history and was met with a bit of aggression rather than education, but the way you responded was put really well so it’s appreciated. I actually wasn’t aware of this either so I’m glad you decided to explain it in a kind way 😊