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24F Lately im questioning if im bi. I fantasize a lot about being w a woman in FFM 3some, but less about 1 on 1 sex w women, and I don’t think id want to date a woman. Any advice on figuring myself out?
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Anonymous 14w

I don’t have the interpretation that you’re joking or attention seeking w this, but it also doesnt sound like you’re bi! Unless you end up developing more feelings for women that aren’t related to fantasies about men.

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Anonymous 15w

Wanting to use a woman as 3rd party for your little sex fantasy but wouldn’t date a woman? Get out of here. You ain’t bisexual, just an attention seeker.

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Anonymous 14w

i disagree w most of the comments- sounds like ur queer and haven’t decentered men yet. would u not date a woman or can u not imagine it yet bc it hasn’t happened to u yet? mayb u would fantasize abt women1:1, if u knew what sex felt like with them is like. mayb ur operating off of only what u know. despite what’s said here- it’s fine to experiment, that’s how we all figure it out!! u just have to experiment ETHICALLY. disclose to ur queer potential partners that u r exploring ur sexuality.

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Anonymous 15w

are you just interested in a potential 3some? /gen

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Anonymous 5w

So update if anyone cares. 9 weeks later, I have discovered I am indeed bisexual and am now dating women. Thank you to the people who weren’t judgmental about my questions. Given the religious household I grew up in I guess threesomes were the way my brain could safely begin to explore the possibility because I’d never allowed myself to think about women like that before. Although looking back, I’m realizing I had so many obvious girl crushes over the years 🙈

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Anonymous 14w

Im the same way except with dudes lol. I dont think im Bi? Like id do MMF 3some but like.. I dont find mens features attractive. The sex like.. shared with F partner sounds hot tho. Not a strong craving, and im fine with being bi. I dont know if im bi, or just a submissive person and kinda enjoy the taboo.

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Anonymous 14w

Is this supposed to be a joke or something? Go somewhere else with your bullshit

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 15w

Idk maybe. I think having a guy there would make me more comfortable because that’s what I’m used to and I’d be nervous

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15w

it could be that you’re wanting to try something new in your intimate life, doesn’t necessarily mean you’re bi though

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 14w

FYI, for many people in the community, bringing up threesomes can be in poor taste bc theres a lot of catfishing that goes on (people lie+say they want a relationship but they really want a threesome with their bf 😑) or other nonsense thats legit attention seeking and can harm people in the community.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 14w

Questioning is never a bad thing, and I appreciate that you’re trying to figure stuff out. I also hope you can understand how bringing ffm threesomes with a focus on men into discourse could have pinched a (validly sensitive) nerve. As for figuring yourself out, try fantasies about just women, watch wlw media, see you feel about it! Attraction to women should not be men-centric.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 14w

This is a great response- kudos

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 14w

experiment w a woman, if it’s not for u then sounds like ur done exploring and u just want a threesome lol but there’s nothing wrong w exploring ur sexuality and trying to push ur boundaries to learn abt urself

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14w

though that experience could lead to further self-discovery

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 14w

as if plenty of women out there aren’t into 3somes…get over yourself. we’re grown adults who are allowed to experiment with our sexualities

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 14w

This is a really good point

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 14w

I do not gaf if someone likes a 3some but that does not make you bisexual. You can’t sit there and say you’re bi if you would never actually date a woman. And this is coming from a lesbian who has done PLENTY of experimenting

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