Anonymous OP 7w

I’m a swim lesson instructor in West Virginia and I primarily work with children, the number of children who ask me about my children (I don’t have any) and my husband/boyfriend (I’m a lesbian) is insane and I always have to this awkward laugh and then I just say I’m not dating a man. I have had clients try to set me up with their nephews, good family friends, a child from a previous marriage who was my age, or just the other swim instructors who are men. It’s annoying

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Anonymous OP 7w

I have started like telling the little girls I work with especially that they don’t need a man to be happy and that I’m happy without a man (this always comes from a conversation about why I don’t have a prince like the Disney princesses) and I always use Elsa from frozen and Merida from Brave as examples and that has worked in a very conservative setting

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Anonymous #4 7w

it shouldn’t be though. why do people care so much about who i want to sleep with. like damn keep your kinks in your bedroom

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Anonymous #6 7w

for clarification i’m not yelling at you just annoyed by the world rn

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Anonymous #7 7w

i don’t actually teach anymore but when i did, i was in south georgia

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Anonymous #7 7w

yeah that along with so many other reasons are why i don’t want to work in public schools. (I was a music Ed major in east tennessee)

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Anonymous #6 7w

i mean yh but i really didn’t care. these were young kids, usually prek-1st graders. after that, they don’t care, as long as you’re a good teacher. i also taught a k-5 stem class and the upper grades were hella respectful. With younger, they are learning about the world and curious about things outside of what they are told. it’s not in a malicious way majority of the time, so if you say, “im a xyz, all people are different,” they will accept and go about their day

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Anonymous #6 7w

It shouldn’t be and it is very hard to keep a tough skin. I feel for you very heavily. I’m pretty sure I will only ever be given piano teaching jobs to adults and it is very hurtful to be marked off as a danger to children, but I’m learning to deal with it. Try to focus on the love in your life. change is coming in society but I can’t say how fast

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Anonymous #1 7w

yooo I’m also a lesbian and used to be a swim instructor albeit in a more liberal state. I grew my hair out and went by my deadname at work just to blend in. I really feel for you and wish you the best

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Anonymous #6 7w

And it’s the same people that consider talking about sex a taboo likeee you’re such a prude but are obsessed with who random people sleep with?? Make it make sense

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Anonymous #1 7w

I used to live in north Florida. I moved to Massachusetts. The most liberal technically gay accepting claimed state in the country. It’s like that here too just like Texas but with a twist. They won’t put their hands on you here, or shout at you, but they will kill your career behind closed doors. Northerners are upfront with their a-hole personality except when they discriminate. They do that passive-aggressively here. ☹️ -A social worker always among Jesus obsessed Christians.

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Anonymous #12 7w

Edit: I’m a gay man so I know it’s kinda different for me because I don’t have the gender added weight to it, but yeah. There’s full of those people here too. I swear every natural disaster we get more and more 😭

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Anonymous #12 7w

U have ur own unique experiences of fetishization from (mostly white) females and emasculation from men, they’re valid don’t over look them

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