LGBTQIA+ on Yik Yak | i hate how passing as a trans person comes with inherent privileges. it makes me said for the people who have a desire to pass but can't achieve it.

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LGBTQIA+ 1w

i hate how passing as a trans person comes with inherent privileges. it makes me said for the people who have a desire to pass but can't achieve it.

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Anonymous 1w

tbh I figure the most productive usage of that privilege is to stay self-aware like this, being sure not to slip into a state of mind where you view “non-passing” trans peers as a separate or Lesser class of trans person. which almost feels redundant or too obvious when I type it out, but I see that weird condescension crop up all too often

Anonymous 1w

I pass as male like 80% of the time now. I have to be cognizant of so many things, especially how I behave around women. Keeping a respectable distance, being very careful with how I give them compliments without coming across as creepy, etc. (I’m also neurodivergent so I have that extra layer of having to navigate the world in a specific way.) I’m, like, 99% gay, but I do miss women automatically feeling safe around me

Anonymous 1w

i don’t think it’s really useful to use the language of privilege when talking about passing. it often flattens the issue into people who look “normal” get privelege and everyone else doesn’t instead of examining how violence is used to punish those who fail to conform to a eurocentric heteronormative ideal of beauty and gender roles

Anonymous 4d

Fr same

Anonymous

#1 1w

sometimes people who can reliably pass as their gender in public start to become out-of-touch or dissociated from their experience of what it was like to be early- or pre-transition, to the point where they show less warmth & kinship towards others who aren’t “on their level”, ykwim? so it’s good to stay consciously dedicated to Not moving that way

Anonymous

#3 1w

it removes the intersectionality of the issue in a way that makes it harder to place within the broader context of gender dynamics within american society and makes it far too easy to place blame on people for passing or not passing

Anonymous

#3 1w

now that you mention it, I guess it does feel like sort of a reductive framing for this particular issue

Anonymous

#3 1w

i see what you're saying but like at the end of the day privilege is the only word I can use to describe it. i find similar to how there are white passing black people who will inherently be more privileged than darker skin black people. I think both go hand and hand with pretty privilege. Reality is for me the people who do fit a eurocentric beauty standard will always just be more privileged. It's just a harsh reality but i don't think that means you need to conform.

Anonymous

OP 1w

since lots if trans people don't even have a desire to pass, and that is okay and i personally don't think that passing should come with the privilege or be considered "normal" but that doesn't mean society will adhere to that.