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talked to him about how i feel abt sex and i feel horrible yayyyy
so how do i tell my bf of nearly 3 years that i do really love and care about that i don't think i'm sexually attracted to men at all 😍
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Anonymous 14h

omg nooo i'm so sorry, did he not take it well?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14h

i mean we didn't break up i jst kinda told him i don't know when/if i'll ever want to have sex again which is hard to explain and i think i made him feel really bad about himself even if i said it wasn't his fault

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14h

you said it’s hard to explain but your post states why you don’t want to have sex? huh?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14h

ik it's hard but if you're not attracted to him like that then you should find someone who you feel attracted to (and he should too...) cause let's be honest waiting it out or just trying to push trough it won't really help, it's better to be honest and try to move on and not waste time, especially if you don't feel comfortable... and ik it's probably hard to tell him that and explain it but only you know how you feel and he needs to respect that.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 13h

i mean it is hard. bc i am in love with him idk

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 13h

and i don't THINK i am but im afraid im wrong

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 12h

I think this is a bit of a black and white take tbh. I'm asexual and I have a very fulfilling relationship with my partner who is not asexual. it's very possible to still have a great and loving relationship even if only one party experiences sexual attraction. this situation is a bit different since it seems neither of them entered this relationship knowing that this was the reality, but it doesn't mean they're doomed

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 11h

i still want him in my life

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 11h

yeah ofc i know but in the og post the op just said they weren't attracted to men so i don't know if they're asexual or just not attracted to men... i mean if they are asexual or still want to stay with their partner that's completely fine ofc.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11h

i mean you can still have someone in your life & love them without being in a relationship with them lol

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