Anonymous #1 15w

Bruh. It can change smh. It’s fluid

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Anonymous #1 15w

I used to be attracted to women both sexually and romantically, now I’m no. very much so enjoyed being with women and now have no desire or reason or need to do so. my sexuality changed. was comfortable in it then and am comfortable in it now.

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Anonymous #5 15w

like what?

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Anonymous #5 15w

Uh. Like what

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Anonymous #4 15w

The last part reads weird af. “You can be gay(/lesbian) all your life” it’s not a can. It’s an is, I AM a lesbian. I think sexuality is fluid for bi/pan people as that’s quite literally part of the definition and history but I do not think it translates to gay/lesbians. I will NEVER love a man that’s not a choice

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Anonymous OP 15w

You caught me while I was responding to 4 I already sent it

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Anonymous #5 15w

sexuality being fluid ≠ sexuality being a choice 💀

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Anonymous #5 15w

Pookie. That’s a you thing. It’s all towards your personal journey. I’m saying sexuality CAN be fluid, not that everyone’s is.

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Anonymous OP 15w

I’m just saying that I have both personal experience as well as experience from close friends.

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Anonymous OP 15w

I’ve seen people say “sexuality is fluid” specifically against lesbians that’s why I’m prickly about it, I understand your point now I wish you picked better phrasing

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Anonymous #5 15w

Ahhh, while i have had a friend who went from bi to lesbian to queer, that’s not what I was suggesting

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Anonymous #5 15w

I’m also just bad at phrasing sometimes

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Anonymous #5 15w

think we can all agree that no one decides your sexuality, not even yourself. for some people it changes on its own, for others it stays the same

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Anonymous #4 15w

Yes

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Anonymous OP 15w

I get it, I appreciate you explaining what you meant so yes I agree now that I understand your point!

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Anonymous #4 15w

Yes I agree

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Anonymous #5 15w

Exactly, you’re able to find your sexuality over time but it’s not a matter of it changing. I was born this way, and the people who’ve done things with males and females and enjoyed it can be comfortable in their bisexual identity

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Again, anyone can find their sexualities over time, but would you call someone who identities as a lesbian and at one point kissed a boy due to social pressure straight at that point in time? No, they were always a lesbian. You can find out things about yourself, like if you once identitied as a lesbian and realized you like men but only enjoy anal from men bc it’s something you never tried before, and now identify as bi but you would’ve always been bi actually

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Anonymous #1 15w

My sexuality has changed frequently, pan, bi, lesbian, bi again, gay, and finally i just call myself ambiguously queer:) i genuinely did not have attraction towards certain genders at some points, its fluid for a lot of people:)

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Anonymous #10 15w

this is over the span of like 12 years just for context

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Anonymous #7 15w

i loveeee living in a fluid state! keeps me on my toes lol

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No, my lord have y’all never heard of “Born this Way” by Lady Gaga? 😂 maybe she can explain it better than I can

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🤦🏻‍♀️you can have a static or dynamic sexuality, regardless, you were still born that way. Does that make sense?

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Anonymous #11 15w

Same, I’m a bi lady that’s always been that way and likely always will be. 🥰 Some people seem to think that when bi folks choose their ‘forever partner’ that their sexuality ‘changed’ and that’s certainly not the case a good chunk of the time. But some folks are fluid and that’s cool, too! 🫶

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Anonymous #13 15w

who downvoted you 😭 people hate positivity ig

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Anonymous #4 15w

it was me because i’m mad confused about why this is under my comment specifically

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Anonymous #11 15w

Aw, I’m sorry! I think I was agreeing that we both are static in our labels (myself being bi, 11 being a lesbian). Then I guess I got kind off track after that. 😂 Totally fair to be confused, no worries! 🤙

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Anonymous #15 15w

not everyone’s sexuality is fluid and subject to change. i view my own changes in identity as discovering my sexuality, not it shifting. it’s weird to insist that everyone’s sexuality is fluid when so many people don’t experience it in a fluid way

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Anonymous OP 15w

only bisexuality is fluid. exclusive homosexuality is not

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Anonymous #18 15w

that’s not true! it isn’t always fluid, in fact it tends not to be, but there have been years in which i identified as a lesbian, and then a guy came around that changed my mind. there can always be a circumstance that changes things

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Anonymous #18 15w

No. Like I said before, it is fluid for some people, for others it is static. Stop trying to enforce the idea that you need to remain one sexuality, some people don’t!

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Anonymous #11 15w

I wasn't trying to say it is always fluid, sorry if I worded it poorly. I was more trying to say that, like I said, it's not a personal attack for someone else's sexuality to be fluid.

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Anonymous #15 15w

But it is absolutely fluid for a lot of people. I've always been bi, but my preferences have shifted a TON over the years.

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Anonymous #15 15w

the post said that “no labels are static” and you called what they said true. forgive me for reading agreement with a dismissive and conversion therapy-esque argument as anything other than agreement lmao. obviously it’s fluid for some people. op said it’s always fluid and you said “so true”

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Anonymous #11 15w

Guys. Pls, I’ve corrected what I meant in the comments above😭 I mean that it’s fluid for some and may not be fluid for others. I was just going off experiences me and my close friends have had. It’s not a big deal

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Anonymous OP 15w

that’s not what you said dude, and what you said is super harmful. i understand you probably want the yakarma but id take this down personally

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Anonymous #11 15w

Bro no it’s not hello? I corrected myself in another comment strand. I’m not “farming for karma” or anything. You’re the only person currently being weird about this. The “all sexuality being fluid” part is the only thing I’d change on my original post

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Anonymous OP 15w

and “all sexuality being fluid” is harmful

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Anonymous #11 15w

Like I said, that’s the part I would change pookie. I get people liking labels but why should we constrain ourselves?

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Anonymous #11 15w

I literally pointed out that it's used in a homophobic context and that's why people get offended when people's sexuality changes like dude you're literally proving my point???

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Anonymous #15 15w

The fact you are so up and arms about how it's not fluid is reading as a purposeful misunderstanding of my words so you can get mad. And your responses to other comments are coming off as biphobic I'm gonna be real.

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Anonymous #15 15w

My wording was strange and I’ve said that above but they don’t get it😭 I’ve agree it’s dependent on the person. Like I don’t get why 11 is so angry

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Anonymous #1 15w

i’m abrosexual. explain that

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LMAOOOO I said I was wrong with my wording multiple times like.😭😭 I wrote this more to personal beliefs and experiences aisbishdidjd

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i recognize and i’m glad op admits that part of what they said was harmful. that being said, i just personally would delete a post of mine that misrepresented my views in a harmful way and gained a lot of traction

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Anonymous #15 15w

yeah dude, we’re on the same page. like you said, it’s specifically because it’s used in a homophobic way that i think it’s so important to watch how we word our views so that we don’t mistakenly say something we don’t mean

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Anonymous #11 14w

Bruh. I’m saying this one more time. I explained what I actually meant by my post.

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Anonymous OP 14w

yes. i understand what you meant and i understand that you misrepresented your opinion and are being misinterpreted because of it, but like i said, knowing that, i would delete the post because leaving it up is leaving up a harmful misrepresentation of your actual views

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