from birth “society” has actually told most of us that discussing our sexual orientation is too sexual/sexualizing/inappropriate/shoving it down others’ throats. i’m sorry that you’re experience what is likely internet queer spaces pressuring you to choose and announce a label, but let’s not forget the reality that queer people are actually punished for letting people know their sexuality, sometimes violently
yeah i feel like people on the internet often mix up the messages “society” (ie heteropatriachy) is sending with the messages they’re getting from within their own echo chamber. largely it is seen as abnormal and is sometimes dangerous for people to have and share identities other than heterosexual and cisgender