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LGBTQIA+ 1w
Yearning for a relationship but also possibly being AroAce is absolute hell Like, I’m always in a constant crisis over this and I may actually crash tf out
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Anonymous 1w

Same. I’ve resorted to maladaptive daydreaming about being a completely different person

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Anonymous 1w

I'm in a relationship and I'm aroace! it takes a lot of understanding and considerate partner but we're super happy together, even if my love is different to his

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Anonymous 1w

Wut… how can you yearn for a relationship if you are both aro and ace

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Anonymous 1w

So so true, I’m feeling the same way. It’s so hard because I don’t know how I feel at all. This is why I’m so obsessed with the sims, I just live vicariously through them.

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Anonymous 1w

what is thay

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Anonymous 1w

So then you’re not?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

No that’s actually so real though cuz same, except most times I think about my OCs

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1w

you can still yearn for the particular closeness of a romantic/sexual relationship (or even just closeness in general) even if you’re not able to feel the necessary attraction

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 1w

Wouldn’t that be yearning for a really close/deep friendship though? (Genuine curiosity)

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1w

sometimes (really often for a lot of us) yes, but other times we wish we could feel romantic/sexual attraction because it feels like we’re missing something. there’s also some aroaces who have some attraction but not enough to warrant a relationship, so they yearn through that

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 1w

Ok that helps me understand. But How can aroace people who have some attraction know that it is not enough for a relationship if they yearns for one?

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1w

how do you know you’re attracted to anyone? same way. mostly by thinking about it a lot, probably. also, attraction is complicated (there’s different types, it can wax and wane, etc) and it’s not always the case where someone to have absolutely no attraction. but if you’re only attracted to people about a day every year, that’s effectively aroace

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 1w

not everyone whos aroace has absolutely zero attraction*

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 1w

is sexuality a choice?

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