Anonymous #1 1d

a note to people who may think like this: you don’t have to date anyone who identifies as a lesbian! it is ok to not want to! but it is not ok to tell other people what they can and can’t identify as

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Anonymous #1 21h

it’s not purely about dating. implying that trans men could be lesbians means that you don’t see trans men as men. you see them as woman-lite. trans men are men, and men cannot be lesbians. neither should a man want to intrude on a space meant for women who love other women. if you still think you are a lesbian, ie a woman who likes other women, then perhaps you are not a trans man and are rather something else under the trans umbrella.

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Anonymous #2 19h

i wouldn’t date a lesbian either because to me, it would make me feel invalidated and not seen as a man. that doesn’t mean other trans men can’t date lesbians and still identify as men. at the end of the day, it effects you absolutely 0% who other people are dating and what they are calling themselves while they are doing it.

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Anonymous #2 18h

you are looking at it from a very binary lens when a lot of these instances do not fit into the binary. trans men are men but it is also an identity that falls under the transmasc umbrella. i’m a trans man but i don’t not identify as a man the same way a cis man would. it sounds like you hear the word man and immediately make assumptions that everyone connects to the word the same when they don’t. it’s a label, a descriptor, but not a set in stone definition for all.

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