in a figurative sense, i’d say incels aren’t real men, and zionists aren’t real jews. they exploit religion to oppress and hate others. that’s my own view on the matter; same as the way i don’t view jihads as real muslims or khalistanis as real sikhs. people who preach hatred will never be aligned with god as they claim to be
the difference here is that i’m discussing religion specifically, where certain individuals’ beliefs and actions are directly antithetical to the religion they claim to be a part of. ethnicity or nationality isn’t something that changes based on your personal beliefs or practices, but religion is.
i’d argue the way you identify is a belief in and of itself. i believe i am a woman, therefore i am. the two aren’t mutually exclusive. i understand what you’re trying to say, but for example, if X religion says that its members must practice honesty and someone who claims to be part of that religion is a habitual liar, are they a true member of that religion?