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Dating an asexual person I’m constantly scared that I’m somehow making them do something they’re not interested in. I consciously know they want to and that I haven’t even mentioned anything like that without being prompted, but still just scared, yk?
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Anonymous 3w

i get being scared! if you’re this worried about it, i would talk to your partner about your fears. even if you’ve already established boundaries around certain things, it’s always better to deal with anxieties before they become a lot worse. your partner is with you for a reason, i’m sure they’ll want to work it out with you. <33

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Anonymous 3w

That’s a valid concern!! As an asexual person, sometimes I worry that my partner may feel forced since they’re aware that I don’t function on the same level as they do (for lack of a better term). I would definitely express this with your partner to ensure you’re heard and so that anything can be cleared up! Communication is always key to any type of relationship, I wish you the best of luck!!

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

I’ve talked to them about it before, they maintain that anything that we do is because they want to, but I just can’t help but worry that theyre feeling pressured. I know it’s dumb because they already told me to not worry about it, but my biggest fear is that I inadvertently make them do something they wouldn’t want to do. We’ll be alright though, we’re pretty good about communication I think

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

that’s good. it’s understandable to have those fears, but i am sorry that you have to deal with them regardless. i am wishing you two the best! :)

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

Thanks! And no worries, they’re very aware. They’ve told me multiple times that I don’t pressure them (and that I couldn’t successfully pressure them even if I wanted to lol) but it’s always just one of those unsubstantiated fears, you know?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

They’ve started making an effort to use definitive phrasing “*I* want” and such, helps to make sure they’re not just capitulating to me

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Of course!! Those fears are very valid, and I’m glad that things are being worked on to help your relationship!! :D

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