Gonna be real idk any cishet ppl that identify with polyamory, they usually go for the ENM (ethical non monogamy) or open relationship label, but maybe thats just my bubble or area im in

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i've seen that it depends on who they're dating (like if they're lesbian/bi/gay/etc) so it's not inherently queer, but i've also seen that since it deviates from the norm, it is queer in very curious bc a lot of the logic seems reasonable

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honestly, i've thought about it and if i saw 2 men and 2 women at pride with a polyamory flag and they told me every relationship dynamic within the polycule was straight, id still be happy about them being there and think they warrant having the relationship be called queer

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tbh most poly people i know are queer in other ways, usually multiple other ways. and a lot of the hate i see for poly ppl online is really directed at more obviously queer ppl (like that “all poly ppl look the same” bs). but even disregarding all that, it is an unconventional type of relationship that is discriminated against, so yes if a cishet polyam person wanted to identify as queer i don’t see why they shouldn’t

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Can we stop debating identity already

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my knee jerk reaction is "well they're straight." but i don't think straight negates queer when i think about it for more than a few seconds. i think the topic can be uncomfortable and we can dive into "who has it worse", but that isn't productive, and sets a precedent where most the queer community isn't "queer enough"

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