And turns out he wasn’t actually okay with me being bisexual!! He just “didn’t fully support it.” It hasn’t hit me yet but I feel so fucking empty rn, and the end of the conversation went by so maturely?? People pleasing be damned I still blocked him

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As if an actual predator would pay attention to bathroom signs

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nah i once dated a man who “was trying to understand” my queerness and i found out like a few months in he was christian and had been talking to to his dad (who i never met) about me, and ofc his dad had decided he didn’t like me

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Conservatives love to fear monger about something that has ZERO DOCUMENTED CASES while neglecting the fact that trans people are 4 TIMES more likely to experience sexual or physical violence in a bathroom. By turning a blind eye to that, they’re only predators I see here.

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As a right leaning individual, try relating gender control to gun control. I’m willing to bet that they will agree that more gun laws won’t stop someone who’s already going to commit a crime; point out it’s the same. More laws about gender won’t stop someone who’s already going to commit a crime

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Flip it on him! Men don’t need to dress up, they’ve been preying on Women and Children since the beginning of time.

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had a similar experience with my ex bf, broke up with him pretty soon after it just ate at me

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I’m so sorry you are going through it emotionally—very glad though that you’re AWAY from that dude

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He just told on himself there. Everyone who says “men dressed like women” is not afraid of real trans women being predators, they’re afraid of cis men taking advantage of trans women’s existence to act on predatory behavior. It always goes back to the fear of men. I’m so sorry he deceived you like that OP, that’s gut wrenching :( I hope you’re able to find peace

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If they’re gonna prey on people they’re just gonna do it not have surgeries and therapy to permanently alter themselves just for that

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That’s rough op. Proud of you for sticking up for what’s right though. It will be worth it in the end when you find someone who respects and supports you and the community you are a part of

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he’s worried about predatory cisgender men using transgender identity to commit crimes, he just sounds too stupid to comprehend that its men who are the issue.

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transphobia is such a universal red flag. like being queer does not absolve an individual of criticism but the whole trans bathroom predator trope is just straight up bigoted and virtually all recorded instances of it actually happening are from bigoted people pretending to be trans to justify bad behavior. and these are often the same people who will refuse to acknowledge that gun culture in the US is responsible for school shootings 🤦‍♂️

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this sucks and he sucks and as a trans woman especially these days i just gotta say it’s comforting to see a comments section full of cis people who also think transphobia is freak shit. i sometimes gotta remind myself that the phones are a loud minority in the actual consensus

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ik it’s way easier said than done but babe drop him and move on 😕 it’s unfortunate but ppl like that are NOT worth your time, regardless i’m so sry ik how that realization hurts

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just tell him to look up ‘man in womens bathroom’. especially in japan, men commit crimes without ‘disguising’ themselves all the time

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NGL, I wonder if men hear “ Bisexual “ and just think “open to a threesome “ , not “ can be attracted to men and women” . I’m a bi , ( technically pan romantic) cis-gender women married to a cisgender man . I’m gay , I just chose a soul to tie mine to . That soul just happens to be in the body of a man. 🤷‍♀️

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My whole thing is if a man is gonna prey on anyone they’re gonna do it as themselves, i wish they would stop saying that lgbt people do allat when they dont

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So, it’s obvious now but… run.

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I’m so proud of you for getting out of that. I know it was hard to break it off, but you made the right choice.

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