Anonymous OP 13w

part of it is from society taking bi-SEXUAL and making it feel like it HAS to include being biromantic but

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i knew there was something i was missing 💀the only thing is i need to really figure out is if it’s sexual attraction or if i tolerate it because it can feel good? but once i figure that out now i have this to keep in mind ty🙏🏽

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Anonymous #1 13w

can u tell me more about the historic v split attraction because i haven’t heard about that

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Anonymous OP 13w

the historical use of “bisexual lesbian” is exactly what i described—a part of the 60s/70s lesbian feminist movement. the split attraction model is the name for labels where you split romantic attraction and sexual attraction ie biromantic homosexual. it’s much newer and imo not necessary in very many instances, but if you prefer that you could call yourself biromantic and homosexual

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Anonymous #1 13w

i LIKE that description a lot to be honest, even though politics aren’t the ONLY reason i wouldn’t date men. i worry about things like #2 said about not being able to say that since i might have SOME limited attraction to men. but good to know all that thanks

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Anonymous OP 13w

to clarify, bisexual lesbians would not historically date OR have sex with men

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Anonymous #1 13w

small correction, it sounds like op is bisexual and homoromantic

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Anonymous #3 13w

you’re right that’s my bad lmao

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Anonymous #3 13w

i’ve thought about this, but with how people see bisexual USUALLY as romantic attraction it feels like i’m misrepresenting my interests is where my conflict is coming from, because sex isn’t very significant to me and it feels like i’m just telling people i like to fuck anyone😭but saying bisexual homoromantic is like a jump scare to some people

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Anonymous #3 13w

it is different to be a lesbian who has had sex with men and identify as a lesbian while actively having sex with men tho

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Anonymous #3 13w

i know this doesn’t really make a difference but i also don’t SEEK OUT men for sex, it’s truly never my intention,,, but if a threesome with a man and a woman opportunity falls into my lap…

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Anonymous OP 13w

yeah you honestly sound like a lesbian. it’s gonna be an unpopular opinion because people can’t acknowledge that queer reality is messy and doesn’t always fit in their neat boxes and definitions they learned on tumblr lmao. i’m a lesbian, married to a lesbian, been doing this shit for over a decade. try spending some time in queer + lesbian spaces and that might give you more insight as to how you want to identify.

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Anonymous #1 13w

not #3 blocking me for saying that lesbians don’t presently have sex with men lmao

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Anonymous OP 13w

also think about whether your sexual desire in that threesome scenario is *for* the man or it’s because you’re performing for the *woman*

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Anonymous #3 13w

You could look into omnisexual, from my understanding it’s attraction to multiple genders where gender does play a role in attraction? Or maybe even a micro-label of bisexual?

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Anonymous #4 13w

Did not mean to respond to this thread it’s supposed to be a regular comment OOPS 😰

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Anonymous #3 13w

also, are you attracted to men or just willing to have sex with them? that might help. lots of people have sex/intimate affection with persons they’re not attracted to because that activity feels good. that might provide further insight.

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Anonymous #3 13w

willing to have sex with them, the thought process is mostly “why not? it might be fun?” but i don’t LOOK for that to initiate it myself. the threesome is also definitely more so for the woman😭kind of ignored him if i’m being honest

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Anonymous OP 13w

uh yeah this is sounding more and more lesbian by the minute

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Anonymous #1 13w

Okay so I’m not crazy because why are people upvoting that…

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