It sounds dumb but it’s genuinely as simple as do you feel sexual attraction towards both the same and different genders. That’s genuinely the only question you need to answer, and it may involve different follow up questions for each person

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I think it’s important to understand that you can feel attracted to people you don’t wanna date. I am attracted to men, but I don’t date them because it just hasn’t gone well and they’re kinda gross.

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I’m a lesbian who was out as bi for years before figuring out I was a lesbian. Being with men always felt performative, like I always felt like I was on a performance. Several of the men I was with even made comments about how everything I did moans and what not felt fake like porn star. It eventually got to a point where I was crying when a man would kiss me. I tried to force myself to like men. Like now that I’m with women it is completely different

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