Just go away. I’m not in a financial situation where I’m able to medically transition socially if I’m out with a woman I will STILL be treated as a lesbian and that’s what I feel a lot of people are missing from this conversation. Sexuality and gender are just labels you slap on yourself and call it a day, it’s an EXPERIENCE. It’s a personal experience and it’s a social experience. Who is anyone to try and correct someone on their lived experience and personal experience.

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Beautifully put! I’m Enby, Transfemme, asexual, and toric, but it’s easier to just say I’m a “straight woman” because I’m tired of having to explain myself 87,000 times. I still spend a lot of time in gay spaces and with gay guys because that was my liferaft from about 7 to 23. I’m not gay and that label doesn’t fit, but I’m still in the same circles because that’s what has been my life.

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I just don’t understand why, after decades of fighting for rights and begging homophobes to stay out of our private business, we’re out here fighting each other and trying to gatekeep labels. He/him lesbians are just as valid as she/her and they/them lesbians because everyone’s identity is personal to them. If we’re excluding he/him lesbians, we’re no better than the people we’ve been fighting against for generations.

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