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LGBTQIA+ 13w
offered to write my best friend’s obituary so her sister and mom don’t have to do it. i’m gonna do it, but fuck it feels so surreal to try to summarize an entire human being and their life on one piece of paper. i feel like words can’t say enough
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Anonymous 13w

There are professional obituary authors you can pay to consult with btw. You’ll talk to them about the person and how the person lived their life and what you love about them and whatnot and the author will write out the obituary in a respectful and professional way, and will work with you to edit it until you’re happy with the final product

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 13w

I’m so sorry youre going through this and you may already know abt obit writers, I just wanted to mention because I didn’t know abt them before my grandfather passed and it was extremely helpful for me and my family to utilize one

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 13w

that’s fair. thank you for mentioning that. i might use that, but it’s just so hard to figure out what to say. it’s all just memories mixed with the thoughts of what could have been. she just graduated and was about to start med school overseas. she’d always talk to me about her future kids and what she wanted her wedding dress to look like. it just feels so fucked up writing this, i feel like i’m writing a book and just ending it right after it all starts to be okay again.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13w

That’s exactly what they’re there for. You don’t have to figure out what to say, you just say everything and then they figure it out. They’re not (usually) psychiatric professionals but it’s very similar to therapy in my experience where you just word vomit all of your brain jumbles at someone who then organizes your thoughts for you and explains them back to you in a way that makes you understand and feel better

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