Anonymous #2 5w

Yes. What if a queer woman talked about her negative experiences/perceptions of men? It’s not going to make everyone happy because it’s not a view everyone shares, but it is part of her identity. People are allowed to disagree, but the way they disagree can hurt her or other queer women with similar experiences.

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Anonymous OP 5w

they weren’t talking about their experiences. they were just listening stuff they find bad about sex

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Anonymous #1 5w

They are expressing their opinion, which is subjective and not going to apply to everyone. It’s not phrased super nicely, but they aren’t calling people whores or sluts. If I heard a friend say this to me out loud, I would laugh and say ‘you know what, you make a fair point. some people like it for all those reasons, though!’

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Anonymous #2 5w

Yes, which is from their perspective and should be treated as biased, so I don’t understand why people are getting upset because they are talking about how the idea of sex disturbs them as a sex repulsed ace person. I’m autistic and I can’t read tone so I am so confused lmao

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Anonymous #1 5w

I’m sorry if what I am saying is hurtful. I am trying to understand why everyone is eager to interpret what reads to me as a very biased and blunt vignette and of someone’s life as a sex repulsed ace person

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Anonymous OP 5w

I don’t like how op is putting down sex as a concept and acting like it’s SOOOO easy to get pregnant (birth control) or a std (condoms?? Testing??)

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Anonymous #1 5w

That’s another good point, I have worked as a sex educator and unfortunately sex ed in this country is shit so people don’t realize you can safely have sex three times a day with no risk of any of those things if you’re doing it right. I try not to attribute malice to what could be ignorance bc I’ve had hundreds of conversations with people all across the spectrum that start with “hey, so that’s not medically true, and also you can change the way you are intimate until it feels right for you”

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Anonymous OP 5w

It comes off as rude “its so gross and people are just SO obsessed with it” with the masked emoji it’s in line with the throw up emoji showing disgust, like this isn’t the place where ppl talk about sex because they’re being considerate of sex-repulsed aces and the fact this is a 12+ group bcs of sidechat, it just feels like overstepping, as a lesbian i wouldn’t speak on my thoughts of piv/heterosexual sex because ik ppl enjoy it and its a part of their sexual identity, itd be extremely rude-

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Anonymous #3 5w

Like how in LSA (lesbian sex advice) people don’t go onto talking about the disgust they have for penis because we’re aware that trans women have them and describing them in such a way would trigger dysphoria, and that feeling/preference isn’t universal for all lesbians (just like how sex repulsion isn’t universal for all aces) overall it just turns into alienating people that are otherwise accepting of how you feel

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