They don’t hate how queer you are, they hate that you’re queer at all. The straight man that paints his nails on occasion is no less a target than the blue haired Tumblr teen with 200+ xenogenders and uses 17 sets of neopronouns. They want everyone on Earth to fit a specific archetype, and they will try their darnedest to achieve that with whatever means they deem necessary.
some people are truly just gay, not queer. i mean that in the sense that they don't care for their community or the people who are responsible for the fact that they have the right to exist how they are. if you support this, you are not a "normal gay," you are a bigot whom your community probably wants nothing to do with
it’s not an opinion dude i’m genuinely just saying it how it is. do i agree with it? no. do i think its right for anyone to be treated any differently based on their sexual orientation? fuck no. but i’m not gonna deny that in my own gay experience, suppressing myself hasn’t gotten me accepted into more social circles.
definitely not as much as if i was allowed to be myself, but at the end of the day, id rather be included than to live my truth. i’m 18, i’ve still got so much time to learn things that maybe you have already learned such as that you should live for yourself and not for others and things of that nature
Honestly I’m 23 and from Mississippi and while it’s not a pretty truth, it absolutely is the case that people are more accepting if you try to act like a more “normal” queer person. Belittling this person because of their lived experiences is an insane way to go about combatting this, it’s an uncomfortable reality to realize you live in and it shouldn’t be this way but trying to downplay the idea and saying it’s not the case doesn’t help us change it so people don’t have to think this way