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need fellow nonbinary support, my mom asked me today if i identify “because i have queer friends and want to fit in”. straight up. i came out to her 6 YEARS ago, but because i live in a scary town i don’t dress the way i used to in college.
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Anonymous 1d

i should add, i was born female, and am cursed with looking very feminine all the time so i’ve just embraced that as a strength of mine, comes at the natural cost of assumed gender, and tbh im ok with being perceived that way by those that don’t know me. most of my validation comes internally and from my close friends

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Anonymous 1d

I truly don’t understand that line of thinking. Like yeah I’ve just been lying to myself for six years and somehow feeling happier than ever?? My mom also said that to me, but I don’t even have the same friends I did six years ago, and hell, half the friends I did have DETRANSITIONED!!

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Anonymous 1d

My advice is to leave that shitty town as soon as you can.

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Anonymous 1d

idk being nonbinary is hard man, like i feel like i’d feel this same way if i were born in a male body. this sense that both binary options are so limiting and neither really fits me, but that sounds so confusing to someone who is straight and has never questioned these things .. am i valid or no lol im crashing out like i did in high school good god

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Kinda the same thoughts are plaguing me. I feel like there’s no reason to start hrt because I’ll just get misgendered in the other direction. there is no such thing as “passing” when you are nonbinary. even if strangers couldn’t tell if I was a man or woman- it never occurs to them that I am or could be nonbinary- I can only ever be the “she” or “he” who isn’t presently readable to them.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

The question "are you a boy or a girl?" isn't affirming to hear for me because it just shows that nonbinary existence is totally invisible to most people

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 19h

i saw something where somebody (in a true "americans measure things with football fields and love cheeseburgers") explained being nonbinary as men being new york, women being la, and some ppl wanting to be in arizona or denver or tennessee or minnesota or whatever. i was like "surely thats simplified to the point of being a little condescending to whoever youre talking to" but i ended up explaining it to my nana that way and it worked so like. apparently straight ppl can understand it like that

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