hey friend, it takes time to see the changes from T. Everyone has different timelines for these changes and comparing yourself to other trans men will only steal joy out of your transition. I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way, and it’s a really valid way to feel, but just try to remember that things take time. I’m almost 21 and like 7ish months on T and still very much don’t pass. It sucks I know, but I wish you the very best brother<3333 if you ever need anyone to talk to my DMs are open

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A supportive family so I couldn't start till I moved out. And everyone around me who I know on T got to start in high school and was getting he/himed by 6 months if not before. It feels like everything is stacked against me and it's all so hopeless. Plus there's the constant concern that its all going to be taken away any way. I just feel like I'm drowning in grief and jealousy of what could have been.

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You’re going through puberty right now, it’s going to take a number of years. You’ll get there, and I promise you look more masculine than you think you do ❤️

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Start setting fires to get what you want

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can you grow a beard? if someone has a beard society tends to question nothing (ofc you don’t have to pass to be valid and handsome, but I get it)

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My roommate is 5’2” (shorter than me) and on like the lowest dose of T (albeit a little longer than you) and one of my neighbors just asked me about my boyfriend 🫠 so I promise, in no time, random people will just automatically assume you’re a guy

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Depending on the type of T (shots, gel, patches, etc) you take and your dose your results are gonna take longer. If you’re doing something like gel I’d consider switching to shots because they tend to give quicker, more noticeable results. I’d also look into voice training and something like minoxidil for beard growth if that’s important to you. Transitioning takes time, and everyone’s different. It’s about knowing what you want, where you’re at now, and what your options are to reach your goals

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