
so not a man and never used grindr but I did a lot of random hookups my freshman year from people I met off of fetlife (so arguably worse than grinder lol) and it's definitely scary! and I really took way more risks then I should have but I was very depressed lol. but you can do it responsibly by texting beforehand and ensuring you're on the same page for what you want to happen. first meeting in a public place, then speak about/reinforce those boundaries and just leave if there's any pushback.