
As a lesbian, i love and support my bi sisters. I do think it is dangerous to take straight men into queer spaces, but it isn’t fair to assume anyone’s sexuality based on appearance. I do think there is a time and place but we should trust bi women to make judgements on these men rather than making overarching judgements on bi womens bfs.
but y'all are the ones posting online only abt "be nice to us we're queer too!" i promise you the people against you don't care. they don't care abt ur logic or correctness (bc u ARE right, bi ppl are just as queer and have every right to go to pride with or without their boyfriends) block them or smth if it's online, deal with it if it's irl. you aren't a baby. don't act helpless.
Either we are the ones who say it or non-bisexual queer people who believe that bi people are queer have a responsibility to call out the rest of you who are being exclusionary. Just like we all have a responsibility to call out queer people who are mean to trans people. I know we’re not helpless but my boyfriend and I have had gay men come up and tell us we have to leave gay bars because we’re “invading”
so deal with it...? do something. don't just complain. don't just post abt it. idk why you said "the rest of you" when ive alr made it clear i agree with u, i just think you should take initiative and DO something about your problem. but ok, go argue with your bots and take lip from a sassy white gay man instead of standing up for yourself in a way that matters.
So the way that you’re putting me down for expressing frustration and making wild leaps on how I advocate for the community and myself based on nothing is not agreeing with me lol. I do stand up for myself. But you’re right that people who already don’t agree that bi people are queer won’t listen to a bi person, so other non-bi people have to start saying shit and calling it out too. You’re just looking for a fight and want the last word
Like maybe thats happened but like why do we not trust bi women to not bring homophobic men into queer spaces? If they prove to be homophobic and problematic kick both their asses out but why are we judging before giving them a chance (tho i do think lesbian bars should generally be reserved for women)
Oh yeah lesbian bars are for women. But me and my bi boyfriend should be allowed to go to queer bars and to pride and other queer events without being bullied by our people. Like a lot of bi people prefer dating other bi people regardless of gender, I know one bi girl that has a straight bf. All the rest are dating other queer people