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LGBTQIA+ 7w
How do I explain that im asexual but will have (consensual) sex for my romantic partner’s enjoyment even tho i lowk find it so boring
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Anonymous 7w

this is how I am too! I just break it down as much as possible so my usual explanation goes something like - because I'm asexual I don't experience any sexual attraction to people and that because of that I'm not very inclined to touch others sexually. but sex still feels good to me, it just seems without sexual attraction i have a much more muted experience with sex than the average person.

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Anonymous 7w

I think you just did lol. However, just know that there will probably be a lot of people who prefer not to have a partner feels like sex is boring

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 7w

like I'd rather over explain then leave someone feeling blindsided yk

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

It ain’t boring for dont worry

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

for him*

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

They were talking about YOU not enjoying it. Your partner enjoying it with you and the bonding and intimacy is a huge part of the appeal of sex. If your partner isn’t into it it’s not fun and just be ready for that to be a deal breaker for some people bc they want a partner who enjoys sex with them.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 7w

Exactly

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 7w

respectfully op probably already knows this. like we know as asexuals that the way we experience sex means we'll never be up to par when compared to allo person, like we already know this! but it doesn't mean that because our experience is worth less because it's different and it doesn't mean our partner is going to have a bad time. like I just think your comment is unnecessary and kind of disrespectful, especially since it has nothing to do with what op is asking

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 7w

I never said asexuals were beneath anyone. I’m explaining why just seeing that the allosecual partner enjoys sex doesn’t mean all is good. They want you go actually like it so that’s something to take into consideration bc the op was acting like only one person enjoying it is suffice for everyone.

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