Anonymous #3 11w

being anti-condom is stupid as shit on its own

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Anonymous #2 11w

Grindr is actually one of the most important ways it’s advertised!

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Anonymous #2 11w

I’m not saying that being pro condoms is bad but demonizing people who prefer bb and are otherwise responsible and healthy seems judgmental and rude. And again, he told you that expectation in advance, not when he was there right when you were about to do it. So the reaction seems unfair to me.

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Anonymous #3 11w

Yeah it’s judgemental. I judge people who don’t engage in safe sex practices. That’s very stupid behavior, it’s not rude to say that they’re not longer being considered a sex partner bc they refuse to be safe. Not living through the AIDS crisis has done a serious number on younger queer folk and safety

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Anonymous #1 11w

Then just say “I’m no longer interested” and not “that’s f’d up.” Really that simple.

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Anonymous #3 11w

It is fucked up to not engage in safe sex. It’s really that simple

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Anonymous #1 11w

Great! I hope you don’t ever hook up with somebody without a condom! You’re allowed to have that preference. And other peioplr are not allowed to feel that way too as long as they are upfront, responsible, and healthy. Thats okay too. I know plenty of guys who don’t use condoms and are on PreP and tested for other STIs regularly. That doesn’t make them fucked up or bad people.

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Anonymous #3 11w

It is irresponsible and unhealthy to have sex without a condom when you’re hooking up with people. Just like birth control, that 99% is only when you take it PERFECTLY, which is damn near impossible. Human error exists. Two forms of protection are always safer than one. STI tests are invalid once you’ve had another parter. False positives exist. Don’t be silly. Cover your Willy. Always.

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Anonymous #3 11w

Also, important note, calling someone’s behavior fucked up isn’t calling them fucked up. Or a bad person. No one said they were a bad person. They said their choice to not wear a condom is fucked up. Which is true! Don’t take behavior critiques as personal attacks?

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Anonymous #1 11w

It is responsible if you and your partner consistently test negative and it’s not like condoms are 100% preventative either.

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Anonymous #3 11w

If you’re with only one partner, sure. But if you’re in Grindr you’re not with only one partner, now are you? Getting tested every 2 weeks means NOTHING if you’re having 6 different partners a week. It’s irresponsible to be engaging in hookup culture without a condom, no matter what other methods you have. No matter what gender of partners you have either. Condoms or nothing is standard, sorry. You’re not a bad person, you’re just making a poor choice. And it’s ok to say that

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Anonymous #1 11w

This just in: GRINDR IS A HOOKUP APP. Everybody is having sex on there. Condoms, no condoms, OP acting holier than thou because he was chatting with one person who doesn’t prefer condoms is laughable. To quote Roxxxy Andrews but you’re here with us so so are you.

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Anonymous #3 11w

No they’re not! They’re saying it’s fucked up to show up and say they refuse to use condoms. It’s not a preference it’s a demand. That’s a whole new sentence you invented! Pancakes and waffles situation fr

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Anonymous #3 11w

Clearly you’re not very familiar with how some characters are on Grindr. Discussing preferences and testing and being safe with partners is great. Bluntly refusing to use safety practices and no mention of testing is a MASSIVE red flag.

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Anonymous #4 11w

Again to my point earlier, if he had shown up or they had gotten to the hookup point and only then did he mention that he didn’t use condoms, I could understand in that circumstance being justifiably annoyed. But he let him know IN ADVANCE BEFORE IT HAPPENED that he doesn’t use condoms and OP’s response was “That’s fucked up”. And we don’t know what his practices are. Maybe he tests every week. Maybe he doesn’t. The point is it’s a hookup app and shaming people when they let you know their

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Anonymous #3 11w

Intentions up front is also, to quote OP, f’d up.

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Anonymous #3 11w

And if OP is not into that, totally fine! A simple “no thank you” suffices and then everyone can move on.

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Anonymous #3 11w

Seems you’ve never paid attention to Queer history and why safety practices cannot be ignored or taken lightly how this fool in OP’s messages is treating them.

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Anonymous #3 11w

You may be fine fucking your own health up, but I’m not okay with that continuing in my communities when we suffered enough. Seek help.

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Anonymous #3 11w

Sure, he made the fucked choice in the nicest way possible. Gold star for him

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Anonymous #4 11w

I have more queer history in my brain than you have in your lifetime. I have enough to know how far we’ve come since the ‘80s and shaming people for their sexual practices only leads to more shame and unsafe sexual practices.

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Anonymous #3 11w

Oh now who’s acting all holier than thou?

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Anonymous #1 11w

For being sex positive? If it was up to yall we’d be wearing bonnets and capes and saying “Blessed be” every day.

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Anonymous #3 11w

Are you saying I’m not sex positive because I encourage wearing a condom during sex? Or…Amish? I’m suddenly a radical Christi nationalist because I said wear a condom? 😭

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Anonymous #3 11w

Ur gonna give/get an STI someday and ain’t nobody gonna feel bad for you

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Anonymous #7 11w

If I got an STI from a hookup, I would stop going on Grindr until I was completely cleared. Luckily that’s never happened because I’m responsible with my sexual health.

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Anonymous #3 11w

it doesn't matter what you would do bro, OP is talking to a completely random person (unless it's you in which case lmao)

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Anonymous #2 11w

Yeah it’s me. Caught me. After OP rejected me I went on a whole rant.

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Anonymous #3 11w

I have HiV, Crabs, Chlamydia, and several other STIs not even invented yet.

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Anonymous #3 11w

you have to admit that would be pretty funny

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Anonymous #2 11w

That genuinely would’ve been the most hilarious ending

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