“he’s performative!” hey so you realize that the defining factor of a performative man is the performance, not the iced latte in his hand, right? i feel like we’re using this phrase to put down men for engaging in “feminine” interests. just use the slur
No cuz like I am “performative” by virtue of being a guy who likes to dress a certain way and listen to particular music. Now since ppl don’t actually know I’m gay they don’t know I’m not performing for the female gaze lol.