I don’t think you’re understanding me. If you come out and say “Cierra’s wrong for her use of a slur and I don’t stand with anyone like that.” But then turn around and hang out with someone who used a slur and is an abuser then it brings into question the validity of your stance. You would have to do some real mental gymnastics to say Cierra’s use of the c-slur is bad but Ryan’s use of the n-word is okay.
“no one would say this abt any other bipoc group” lets not make this into the oppression olympics here also obvi if she cares about a slur only bc it impacts her and doesn’t care abt other racism theres a problem plus its not like he even just was racist and said a slur once hes also a known abuser so there’s other reasons this is even more problematic