Anonymous #3 8w

AND if they did i promise you it was at 15, not 25

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Anonymous #3 8w

the whole point is that most people aren’t on tv being emotionally baited on 3 hours of sleep with no phones, no friends, with no awareness of time, and their feelings constantly played with. you might think you’d handle it better, but none of us know how we’d act until we’re in that exact situation. also… people yelling when they’re upset isn’t unheard of— it’s called being human.

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Anonymous #4 8w

In Hudas case (in my opinion) she dealt with wondering if America hates her, her “friends” filling her head up with false narratives, dudes talking shit about her, and dealing with that fact she’s no longer coupled w/ her closest connection. All which led to the crash out.

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Anonymous OP 8w

I’m not perfect, but I’ve yet to encounter someone that can make me crash out. I’ve crashed out over my grades or like missing out on opportunities, when I’m alone. I’ve never crashed out over a person or in front of anyone

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Anonymous OP 8w

of course but also some of us were raised to believe that yelling at someone is wrong and you need to communicate how you feel in a respectful way i’m not saying i wouldn’t do that if i was being emotionally baited on 3-6 hours of sleep every night but i know i also wouldn’t go on the show bc it would be bad for me even if i was tho, i would at the very least acknowledge that what i did was wrong and i shouldn’t act that way regardless of the scenario instead of saying “we all would do the same”

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Anonymous OP 8w

that’s all genuinely a lot of ppl WOULD do that, however that doesn’t make it normal or somehow ok to do, it’s still wrong all u have to do is hold yourself accountable, admit that no matter the circumstances your actions were wrong, and do better in the future, like amaya did

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Anonymous OP 8w

amaya had very emotionally charged and very understandable some would say justified crashouts. but what amaya did was go to those men that really didn’t even deserve an apology and say “it was not right for me to speak to you that way and that doesn’t define me and i am sorry that i treated you like that” without waiting for them to apologize or change or anything

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Anonymous #1 8w

My parents don’t count tho

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Anonymous OP 8w

in talking about this i’ve realized that it’s not that i think i wouldn’t crash out, in fact i probably would but i also would be able to recognize the impact my actions have i absolutely have done and said things in moments of weakness that i regret and wish i could take back and you’re right im absolutely not perfect i think the difference is ownership of the actions

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Anonymous #3 8w

accountability is important, and i think that huda has done that many times. but a lot of what i’m pushing back on is the way people weaponize the concept of accountability to justify unnecessary cruelty. huda’s behaviors were wrong, but that doesn’t mean people need to dehumanize her or act like they’d be saints in the same position. you can name poor behavior without pretending that yelling makes someone irredeemable.

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Anonymous #3 8w

also, i never said what she did was okay—just that it’s understandable, given the conditions of the villa. saying that doesn’t excuse it; it just adds context. not everyone is going to respond to emotional chaos with calm reflection, especially not in that environment.

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Anonymous #1 8w

amen to that lmao

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Anonymous OP 8w

see that’s where we disagree, the only time i’ve seen huda actually OWN her actions and say yk what this was wrong period full stop REGARDLESS of whatever else was happening i shouldn’t have done that was when she was apologizing to chelley and then she has since pretty much walked that back and been like yeah idk why she was so mad i didn’t do too much when she literally said herself that she did too much i just havnt seen her take responsibility for the actions, its a lot of “sorry but”

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Anonymous #1 8w

so you have crashed out then. and your parents most definitely do count, they are people as well 💀 you’ve had your moments too, they just weren’t on tv. let’s not act like private breakdowns are morally superior to public ones. crashing out is crashing out.

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Anonymous OP 8w

i mean context of a crashout is very important if you said “everyone has crashed out about family stuff before” now that’s very fair saying we have all done stuff like calling a guy a pussy ass bitch and berating him verbally for 3 hours straight that’s just not true

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Anonymous #3 8w

i hear you, but i don’t think accountability should be performative to meet everyone’s standards of what a ‘good’ apology looks like. people process things differently. just because she didn’t apologize in the way you wanted doesn’t mean she’s never taken ownership. we can critique her without demanding perfection.

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Anonymous #3 8w

also, this is a highly edited reality tv show, she could’ve apologized and it got edited out. or maybe she apologized irl. we don’t know these people beyond what we see on tv.

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Anonymous #3 8w

the specific words or setting might differ, but the core experience—losing control of your emotions and saying/doing something you later regret—is something most people have experienced. whether it’s directed at a partner, a parent, or even yourself, it still counts. i’m not excusing huda’s behavior, but i am saying that many of us have had moments that wouldn’t look flattering on tv.

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Anonymous OP 8w

of course which is why to me her crashing out isn’t the issue it’s the lack of responsibility taken for her actions genuinely actions be dammed, she just had to own that like truly and i would have no issue w her

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Anonymous #4 8w

literally!!!

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Anonymous #3 8w

no apology or accountability she could ever give will ever be good enough for you, which is wild bc she never even personally hurt you so idk why you’re so bothered by her…

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Anonymous OP 8w

Well also it depends on what we define crashing out as well. For me, that is just crying bc I rarely cry.

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Anonymous OP 8w

& private crashouts are superior in every way. Shows yk how to control your emotions in situations, yk how to keep it respectful even though you’re upset.

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Anonymous OP 8w

that’s not true 1. and i’m not really all that bothered by it 2 you just can’t tell me that saying “yeah i was mean and i’m sorry” and then leaving the villa and then saying the same “mean” stuff again is showing that she was sorry i’m not being hateful to her or characterizing her in any negative way and it genuinely also wouldn’t be that hard for her to take accountability there’s absolutely is a type of ownership that would be good enough for me she just hasn’t shown it idk why ppl can get

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Anonymous OP 8w

taking ownership and then walking it back tho does indicate that you were never sorry i don’t think it should be performative either, which is why she’s not doing it, and that’s why i say she hasn’t taken responsibility i’m not demanding anything from her im just pointing out she hasn’t taken responsibility for her actions or issued genuine apologies without going back on what she said

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Anonymous OP 8w

also at this point yes it is edited but we now have context that proves she hasn’t taken accountability bc she is doubling down on stuff she apologized for, or is rumored to have apologized for

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Anonymous OP 8w

who the fuck is we LMAFO ????

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Anonymous #1 8w

it’s totally fine if that’s what you define as crashing out, but everyone expresses emotion differently. and respectfully, private breakdowns aren’t inherently more ‘respectful’—they’re just hidden. bottling up emotions doesn’t mean you’ve mastered them. and also, when i said ‘private,’ i meant that they weren’t on tv. you weren’t filmed, edited, and broadcasted to millions. huda was. and the bar y’all hold her to is unreal.

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Anonymous OP 8w

maybe YOU have done this but most of us have not 💀

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Anonymous OP 8w

screaming in someone’s face vs breaking down in private definitely shows a difference in respect for the person i fear

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Anonymous #3 8w

i don’t have an ex so no, i have never done this :)

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Anonymous OP 8w

why on earth are you assuming everyone does this then 💀 you must know some crazy ass mfs bc this is NOT common or stable behavior in any way

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Anonymous #3 8w

i never said everyone… i quite clearly said “some of y’all”…….

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Anonymous OP 8w

why would that be true 😭 you’re literally just bringing up totally unrelated shit to try and justify what ur saying meanwhile you have noooooo proof that anyone who’s talking to you rn would support that just ridiculous and unnecessary lmao you proved nothing

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Anonymous OP 8w

also the bar of “if you do something shitty to someone else you should take responsibility for your actions regardless of the circumstances and stand on that” no offense but that’s a very easy thing to do i’m confused as to why anyone acts like that’s hard

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Anonymous #3 8w

i brought it up bc that kind of behavior has been glorified and applauded on the internet for YEARS… i brought it up bc SOME people have selective accountability.. trying to hold huda to a standard they’d never told themselves to. i can guarantee you many huda haters have done that and worse. i brought it up to point out the hypocrisy. if the point went over your head, just say that then 🤷🏽‍♀️

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Anonymous OP 8w

ok well there’s no hypocrisy here because i wouldn’t defend and glorify that i understand what you were attempting to do but the point didn’t land bc u also don’t condone that and since you are applying this logic of hypocrisy to people who hate huda but glorify that, it just simply doesn’t apply to me if you wanted to just say that to say it good for you but you aren’t really “getting” anyone by saying that actually all of my criticism of huda is because i hold myself to these standards

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Anonymous OP 8w

also i don’t hate her at all to be clear

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Anonymous #3 8w

i made a general comment/statement on my post. i never wrote that to anyone in specific, including you. it was a generalized statement that had nothing to do with you.. i didn’t say that applied to you specifically. you chose to respond to it, however it wasn’t directed to you. not everything that’s said is about you 😭😭

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Anonymous OP 8w

ok girl well then in that case what you said applies to no one and adds nothing that’s all i’m saying lol

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Anonymous OP 8w

just was clarifying that bc it’s like who tf is yall lmao

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Anonymous OP 8w

If you feel like you’re bottling up your emotions bc you can’t yell at people & cuss them out, then you need to go to therapy.

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Anonymous #7 8w

And it’s not to say i don’t understand and empathize with how Ms. Hurricane got there, but that doesn’t discount that this is W-R-O-N-G. We can stand in both- i understand how you got here, this isn’t okay, i want you to be better(bc also remember this isn’t fun for her to see her behavior on tv), let’s be honest so there can be growth

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Anonymous #1 8w

you’re misunderstanding me. i’m not saying people should yell and cuss each other out. i’m saying we all have different ways of expressing hurt or frustration— and just because someone’s version of that happens publicly doesn’t mean they’re worse than someone who hides it better. therapy can help people on both sides of that coin.

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Anonymous #3 8w

you’re oversimplifying what emotional regulation looks like. yes, yelling at someone isn’t respectful— i never said it was. but breaking down in private doesn’t automatically make someone more respectful either, it just makes them less visible. we don’t all express pain or stress in the same way, and it’s not always a clean, rational process, especially in emotionally charged environments like the villa.

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Anonymous #3 8w

as for accountability, i agree it’s important. but taking responsibility looks different depending on the person, the moment, and how ready they are to process their behavior. you might think it’s ‘easy,’ but for someone dealing with rejection, shame, and public judgment all at once, it can be more complex than that. accountability isn’t always immediate and demanding perfection from people while they’re still raw isn’t realistic or fair.

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Anonymous #3 8w

girl, you just didn’t get it and the point flew over your head, but that’s okay ig 🤦🏾‍♀️ not everything is about you. my point doesn’t become invalid just bc it doesn’t specifically apply to you. just say you can’t see the bigger picture bc all you’re looking at is yourself.

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Anonymous #3 8w

atp, you’ve made it clear that no form of accountability will ever satisfy you unless it looks and sounds exactly how you think it should. it’s also wild to frame someone’s conflicting emotions in a high-pressure, heavily edited environment as ‘proof’ they were never sorry. people can be sorry and still struggle.

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