Anonymous #2 3w

I genuinely hope people give you grace and room to grow if you crash out or make mistakes even though you don’t have the humility to offer that to others

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Anonymous #4 3w

We all hurt people. Growth is messy. What does accountability look like to you in this situation?

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Anonymous #4 3w

Cause it seems like you think accountability is condemning her and convincing everyone she is this unredeemable person

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Anonymous OP 3w

Well if I was her, I’d start with going to her audience and condemning the racism coming from it. Not only toward herself but toward her black castmates whom her followers have severely mistreated. We don’t all go off and curse people out while also hurling insults at innocent women in villas. AND IF YOU DO, DO THAT: you need to be met with that same energy. Not everybody takes the high road when someone is actively making their lives worse

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Anonymous OP 3w

I mean it’s pretty easy not to act like that I fear. And actions have consequences! If my actions directly harm someone to the point that they don’t want to be my friend then I shouldn’t be “expected grace and room to grow” from them. Especially when those actions are repeated in a cyclical manner and affect multiple different people.

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Anonymous OP 3w

That’s a good question in this situation I think what Hooda should have done was come out of the villa go on that call her daddy and say I am incredibly embarrassed at the way I acted. When I said XYZ that was completely out of line, these actions were a result of a lot of stress and environmental influences, but even then I shouldn’t have done them, and I understand if the people that I hurt, choose not to forgive me, but these actions don’t represent who I am and I will be seeking help.

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Anonymous #4 3w

She actually did reconcile with the women she insulted. They became friends afterward, which shows she learned in real time. Accountability can take different forms. And about the racism thing, she did come out and condemn the bullying. I guess she could have been more specific but

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Anonymous OP 3w

In hudas case accountability does not look like going on call her daddy and saying well we’ve all called somebody a pussy ass bitch at one point or another or saying negative things about Chris’s body or continuing the Jeremiah love bomber narrative, or honestly even saying anything about her feeling bullied. If she really did feel bullied she honestly should’ve gone to the people that she felt bullied from and handle that privately, and if she did feel the need to publicly speak on it she -

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Anonymous OP 3w

Should have done so with the disclaimer that she was simply speaking her truth and that she did not want the audience to take what she was saying as an excuse to go spread hate to other islanders bc she should have been aware of the effect that her words might have had with the platform and fanbase she had built

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Anonymous #3 3w

Sorry ik there are a lot of mistakes in this I had to voice type it don’t mind that. The fact that she looked at a highlight reel of her worst moments, laughed, and said I was just being myself, shows me that she has not actually done the work or taken the accountability she needs to

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Anonymous #3 3w

Huda did own her behavior, repair with the women directly, and show change over time. That is what accountability is. Growth is rarely tidy, and in real relationships we all sometimes hurt each other in the process. What matters most is whether someone learns, makes amends, and does better going forward, which she has.

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Anonymous OP 3w

I mean no, she hasn’t. Like I said she doubled down on a lot of her behavior and has not mended things with the men she hurt or publicly come out and said she was ashamed of the way she treated the girls. Amaya literally didn’t even know she had said some of that stuff about her

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Anonymous #3 3w

To me it makes sense that she laughed because you can’t expect someone to look at a clip of some of their worst moments and just immediately condemn their past self. Her laughing was a defense mechanism. I guess she could have made a disclaimer saying that people shouldn’t spread hate to other islanders but tbh, no one else on the cast is telling people not to hate on her when they make negative statements about her

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Anonymous OP 3w

Also at the end of the day no one owes you grace

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Anonymous OP 3w

Listen you asked what I think huda taking accountability would look like so let’s table the conversation about what other ppl are or aren’t doing bc frankly it’s irrelevant. Maybe you can’t expect her to condem her past self but when directly asked how she feels seeing that her response should not have been “I was being unapologetically myself” it should have been holy shit that’s not me at all

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Anonymous #3 3w

I just don’t agree that she had doubled down. I think she is genuinely open to learning and growing and has been taking accountability to the best of her ability while still maintaining some semblance of dignity. We all have the natural instinct to preserve our own dignity and trying to condemn her for this makes accountability harder

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Anonymous OP 3w

Ok but you see how saying Jeremiah is indeed a pussy bitch is not taking accountability for how that was a bad thing to say? That’s doubling down!! I was open to having this conversation w you bc i thought you were actually interested in being open minded

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Anonymous OP 3w

Crashing out when the reason behind your crash out isn’t valid and is degrading and bully like doesn’t deserve grace. Fortunately, I don’t crash out unless it’s 100% necessary, when I’m done incredibly wrong. Huda crashes out when she doesn’t get her way, and if you resonate with that then that speaks volume

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Anonymous #2 3w

I mean I hope you’re right about never having ever crashed out unless you were 100% in the right. I feel like that viewpoint kinda just leads to people being in denial of their own mistakes because they would condemn someone else for making that kind of mistake. So I hope you are right

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Anonymous #2 3w

Cause if you hate someone else that much for crashing out without reason, that means you would hate yourself for the same thing, which means you won’t question yourself or acknowledge mistakes

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Anonymous OP 3w

No a viewpoint that leads to denial of the severity of one’s own mistakes is demanding grace from your victims

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Anonymous OP 3w

Fortunately, I was raised by people who taught me right from wrong, so I don’t go around being an a-hole to ppl just ppl my feelings got hurt, but that’s just me

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Anonymous #3 3w

I don’t understand what you mean by that #3, can you explain? Genuinely would like to understand

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