Anonymous #2 9w

threatening him with “consequences” if he didn’t comply was weird af full stop tho

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Anonymous #4 9w

yes that was definitely weird of her but that was after he was already ignoring her, we can’t hold one accountable without the other

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Anonymous #2 9w

i mean it doesn’t matter what he was doing before he wasn’t ignoring her he was literally sleeping and also, still doesn’t excuse her doing that. it doesn’t matter what he was doing actually it was wrong of her to do and it was super weird and quite icky

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Anonymous #2 9w

if roles were reversed i think it would be realllyyy clear that there’s no justification for her doing that

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Anonymous #1 9w

She had every right to yes, the issue is that he was voicing his discomfort with how intimate they could be in the (not private) bedroom while they couldn’t even peck a kiss in the open. It’s fine if she doesn’t want to kiss openly but he’s saying it’s confusing to be doing one and not the other and she wouldn’t understand that. to me it seems like he pulled back on all physicality because of that confusion

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Anonymous #4 9w

agreed, even IF he was “misbehaving” he’s an adult and you cannot treat your partner as lesser than or a child to get what you want. If your partner was rude to your waiter would you count down from 3? No, you would have a conversation and tell them it’s wrong, even if that convo needs to wait tomorrow morning bc they aren’t listening now

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Anonymous OP 9w

no one’s reading all that

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Anonymous #1 9w

choose to remain ignorant, not my problem 🤷‍♀️

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Anonymous #4 9w

it actually does matter what each was doing, it’s a two way street and there’s no power imbalance and let’s be fr all she wanted was some cuddles, i don’t think she should have to beg for physical affection from her partner and then be ignored, in relationships you have to compromise it’s not like she was saying “if you don’t fuck me right now i’m going to chop off your bslls” or some crazy shit like that but that’s just my opinion 🤷🏽‍♀️

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Anonymous OP 9w

i agree but she can’t have a conversation with someone that’s ignoring her, just like she shouldn’t have said that he shouldn’t have ignored her

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Anonymous #2 9w

you can’t have a convo with someone who is trying to sleep unfortunately you are not entitled to someone’s attention 24/7

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Anonymous #2 9w

that’s the thing tho, they aren’t IN a relationship. and there is some power imbalance, but that aside chris was trying to be physically affectionate and she shut him down

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Anonymous #4 9w

you’re correct you’re not but it ties back to my original comment, respect. you’re not entitled to anyone’s anything, but as a partner your should respect your partner enough to say “not right now i want to sleep we can talk in the morning” and not ignore them, i think that’s where we are getting mixed up. it’s not obligation, it’s respect

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Anonymous #4 9w

they were at that time, and what power imbalance? if anything chris had more power in the villa than huda

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Anonymous #2 9w

and what does her shuting him down have to do with anything?

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Anonymous #2 9w

chris is a black man which means there is a level of racial power imbalance you can say whatever you want and it would be different if chris was a white man while she’s arab but since he’s black it’s different did he not say something like that tho? i swear he told her to stop bc he was trying to sleep and then she was like “im gonna be a bitch to you if you don’t cuddle me” also you said “she shouldn’t have to bed for physical touch” so i was pointing out he WAS initiating and then she told-

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Anonymous #2 9w

him she was uncomfortable

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Anonymous #4 9w

ohh i see what you were saying in the last part my bad that is true, you kinda lost me with the black man arab woman power imbalance tho, again if anything he has more power than her especially in today’s sociopolitical climate, a black man is almost always going to have more power than a woc, it’s kinda shown with the lack of criticism chris has received, but he only said that after ignoring her for however long and she said that before he stoped ignoring her

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Anonymous #2 9w

she’s borderline white passing tho and history black men have been at a disadvantage when it comes to women whiter then them i think he’s receiving plenty of criticism in fact it’s all i’m seeing pretty much

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Anonymous #4 9w

i definitely think hudas still reciveing more hate but there’s a difference between borderline white passing and white passing (also white passing ≠ fair skin), yes we have to look at the history i’m not saying you’re wrong in that but we also have to look at today’s sociopolitical climate like i said, we gotta be able to look at things from all sides not just one and right now anyway Palestinian or looks like they *might* be an immigrant, especially a woman, is going to have less power than

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Anonymous #2 9w

a black man right now, it’s sad but it’s the truth

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Anonymous #2 9w

i agree i’m just saying it’s a bunch of intersectional overlapping power dynamics but also yk, men are less likely to be validated when they are being abused and abusive behavior from women is often harder to see

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Anonymous #4 9w

that’s also true i’m not trying to negate that! all i was originally trying to say was that while yes he did have the right to ignore her, that wasn’t the respectful thing to do

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Anonymous OP 9w

cope

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