She just had a feature about herself that she didn't like and wanted to change it. and if she associates that word with small eyes, she wasn't saying it to hurt anyone but that she just personally didn't like it on herself. doesn't make using it okay but she shouldn't get death threats for not knowing.
I completely get that, I just think in some communities that its just more popularly used, especially if that's a lot of what she was surrounded by as a kid and as another minority, I know a lot of people unfortunately that would just let her pass unfortunately. that's just how some communities are, its not right but that's my experience personally