Anonymous #1 9w

She apologized but did nothing wrong…….She wouldn’t let him talk and has a problem with cutting ppl off

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Anonymous OP 9w

Okay and you interact with people perfectly?

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Anonymous OP 9w

would you be okay with people picking apart every single thing you could have said or done better? I think we should just allow people to learn and grow & as long as they are open to learning from how their actions impact other people then its not that big of a deal

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Anonymous #1 9w

Lmao no one is picking her apart. You had said that she did nothing wrong which is far from the truth. If she had done nothing wrong she would have nothing to work on. You’re contradicting yourself

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Anonymous #1 9w

Never claimed that I did. But you saying that she did nothing wrong is contradicting. My first claim was that everyone hopped on the bandwagon to hate on Ace and made it seem like he was the villain when he wasn’t. There wasn’t one yet ppl IMMEDIATELY began hating on him

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Anonymous OP 9w

You're saying I'm contradicting myself, but you're misunderstanding my point. A person can do something imperfect or unintentionally hurtful without being 'wrong' in a moral sense. 'Doing something wrong' suggests harmful intent or bad character, and I don't think that fits Amaya. She clearly wasn't listening in that moment, and she even owned up to that. That's growth. What I'm saying is: people mess up, interrupt, misread situations. It doesn't make them villains.

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Anonymous OP 9w

If she's open to learning from it, why keep labeling her as “wrong”? Not everything has to be about blame. My issue is with the way people are quick to label and shame instead of just letting people grow. And that goes for Ace too-I agree he was unfairly villainized. The real contradiction is pretending to support growth while still clinging to blame

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Anonymous #3 9w

How did he go about it in a “I don’t like you” way?

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Anonymous #3 9w

I disagree. He told her continuously that he wanted to explore their connection then gave up when she was being mad disrespectful while he was trying to speak. Y’all can like her now but y’all gotta admit that she was a mess at first

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Anonymous #2 9w

Islanders say that re couplings are always intense and there’s a high afterwards, right after the re coupling it wasn’t about what he said to her but the tone in which he said it. And fine this could’ve been unintentional but he came off as he just didn’t want her to be her. He was well aware of how she operated before the re coupling and then proceeded to list things about her that he didn’t want. Then topping it all off his tone and then the sneaking off with Chelly.

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Anonymous #1 9w

And I never claimed she was a villain. We obviously have different definitions of the word “wrong” bc I see it as saying that the way she went about communicating with him was wrong, which is true. She barely let him get full sentences out and you can’t expect good communication when you’re not letting the other side get a word out. Did she have growth? Absolutely. But the way ppl attacked him was ridiculous when she was the main reason why they didn’t have good communication when coupled up

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Anonymous #1 9w

She was wrong in that moment. At this point you just wanted to argue bc I made it very clear that I was talking about that specific situation.

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Anonymous OP 9w

No one's denying that she could've handled that moment better. I literally said that. My point is just that labeling it as “wrong” in a moral, definitive way doesn't help anyone grow. You're focused on proving she was 'more at fault' when I'm saying: let's stop treating emotionally messy moments like they have to come with blame or a villain. People learn. They misstep. That doesn't make them inherently wrong.

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Anonymous OP 9w

If that sounds like arguing to you, maybe you're not actually open to hearing a different perspective.

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Anonymous OP 9w

And the whole reason people attacked Ace is because they had the same mindset toward him that you a holding toward Amaya

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Anonymous #3 9w

Her being touchy is her being her? He said his boundary and she basically told him he made her sad and that he was giving player vibes. He then apologized for hurting her feelings. He can’t sacrifice his comfort just because she’s more touchy feely.

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Anonymous #2 9w

Also his tone was always calm when he was speaking to her and he was very open to hearing how she felt about things. I just think she felt rejected because he just wasn’t fucking with her pace and that’s fine because that just means she wasn’t for him. He also did tell her about being open to exploring other connections and that she should still explore other people as well because he didn’t want to take away from her experience.

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Anonymous #1 9w

Except I didn’t even use the word “wrong” in my original statement. I was calling out the ppl who immediately started dragging Ace, and then you made it into something completely different, dragging it out

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Anonymous #1 9w

You commented under my post for no reason, dragging a point out that wasn’t even originally made….. for again no reason

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Anonymous #1 9w

WRONG ppl don’t understand what setting boundaries is and immediately began to pity her bc “they won’t defend a man”. Don’t start throwing accusations around, you don’t know me babe

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Anonymous #4 9w

He was not “weird” to her. She’s too much for some ppl and he was trying to express that. Y’all take someone asking her to meet them halfway and him saying that she couldn’t be herself which isn’t the same. She failed to be receptive of his boundaries

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Anonymous #4 9w

He didn’t dismiss her, she was not an easy person to have a convo with and easily got defensive when he was stating his boundaries with her. Yes they made up, but the hate he got was disgusting and beyond too far when she was part of the problem as well

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