Men’s Mental Health on Yik Yak | There are some women I see that are so so beautiful and attractive and pretty and hot. And I just hate that I’ll never be good looking enough to attract them. I can’t help but resent myself for that fact. I don’t hate women and I’m not blaming them.

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Men’s Mental Health 3w

There are some women I see that are so so beautiful and attractive and pretty and hot. And I just hate that I’ll never be good looking enough to attract them. I can’t help but resent myself for that fact. I don’t hate women and I’m not blaming them.

Anonymous 3w

Have you considered that you might actually be too hot? Like women are afraid to approach you because they assume you’re taken already?

Anonymous 3w

Why do you feel like you’ll never be good looking? Why do you feel like you aren’t now? Who told you this? I’m glad you’re not in an incel pipeline, but please! putting others on a pedestal is so dangerous to our self image. Once we start making such a hierarchy of others, it allows us to justify disrespecting people on some objective basis, including ourselves.

Anonymous 3w

(Not to be objectify women) I was once told that you need to find your 7. Meaning that all the 10 girls are mean, self absorbed and might cheat on you

Anonymous 2w

I look at it like a commodity. You see a nice sports car, a mansion in the Hollywood hills, a designer outfit, and you go “damn, that’s nice. Too bad I’ll never have it.”

Anonymous

#2 3w

Don’t get me wrong. I don’t go around thinking people are ugly or chopped. I recognize everyone is human. When I hear people I know talking that way where they say stuff like “oh she’s bad” or “damn she’s chopped” I don’t dignify those conversations. It’s disrespectful.

Anonymous

#3 3w

No. As much as I want that to be the reason lol it is delusional to think so.

Anonymous

OP 3w

But what if you being ugly is actually the delusion? Besides, girls are people too, and really don’t care about looks as much as people claim.

Anonymous

#3 3w

Ik the first part isn’t because it’s been affirmed by people I know. And yes your second point is true, they’re just people. But I can’t get myself to approach them anymore.

Anonymous

OP 3w

so then why talk that way about yourself?

Anonymous

OP 3w

I’m not saying you are OP!!! I see you extend the empathy to others, extend it to yourself too!!! Just like 5 said. Imagine you are the person actually being called ugly, if you were someone else, you’d be like “thats fucked up to call OP chopped” and it would be!!!

Anonymous

#5 3w

(Sorry my message was too long lol) Ik it’s all easier said than done. I think though, a good way to practice you treating yourself that way, is go out of your way to compliment people, even if, and maybe especially if, you wouldn’t normally compliment that person. Too often in an attempt to improve ourselves we place way too much emphasis on ourselves, but lowkey that’s how we got here in the first place. Improve the space you exist in, and I think it’ll make you better in the process.

Anonymous

#2 3w

I try to do that as much as I can anyway. Will always hype up those around me 💪